Forget blaming the authorities for preventing the V-Tech shootings.....What about that idiots' parents?

Question

Where were they while this guy's hostility for 'rich people' grew until it blossomed into so much hatred that he felt as though killing them and himself was the only way to solve anything.

What kind of parents were these that couldn't pick up the warning signs that their son was psycho even from high school?

Some college professors took the initiative and contacted the local authorities about his questionable mentality, but I didn't read that the parents did that!!!

How did they raise him?? I really want to know.

@jayjay

Don't apologize!! You're comments were on point!

Answer 1

Thank you, finally someone gets it. Everyone (the media) wants to try and place blame everywhere but where it should go first: the parents. And quit trying to make excuses for him saying he was mentally disturbed. There are thousands maybe millions mentally disturbed people in the world. I don't see them reacting this way.
There seriously needs to be some kind of system for allowing people to have kids. Noone wants to take responsibility for properly raising them. Pay attention to your kids, find out their interests, who their friends are, how they act and talk, what they're watching on tv and doing online. They're not pets that you have to remember to feed 3 times a day. They're people (remember that when you're naming them too). Teach them, raise them how you were (or want to be raised), learn from your parents (what they did right, what they did wrong), learn from them.
If you don't want kid USE PROTECTION or, better yet, QUIT HAVING SEX!!! If you do end up having a kid you don't want their are plenty of couples out there who can't have kids that would love to adopt.
Quit trying to take the easy way out all the time and take some responsibility for once.

Sorry, just venting.

Answer 2

I think several factors play into it, not just media/entertainment. I think the media tends to focus a bit too much on negative things, and that impacts several people. But I think the music industry has a lot to do with it. They glamorize sex, drugs, gangs, and violence, and have become rich doing so, which makes it look good, when we all know the reality. I think video games can be part of it, as several of these are very graphic in violence. But I don't directly blame these sources. I think the main problem is a person's upbringing. There seems to be a lack of parenting on several different levels. Either the parents don't care what their kids listen to/watch/do/hang out with, etc. or they are afraid to do something about it when they see the negative behavior. Our culture has become so afraid to actually be good parents, or to take the responsibility of that task.

Answer 3

Seung suffered from paranoid schizophrenia in its most deadly form. Nobody did that to him. It is a brain chemistry dysfunction. His paranoid ideation was obvious in his video. He had a delusion that everybody enjoyed tormenting him. A condition this severe cannot be made better without continuously taking anti-psychotic medication; and even this is not always effective.
Also, it seems that he was able to cover up his illness to some extent; he made a good impression on the gun store salesperson, for instance.
The problem is, that the law makes it extremely difficult to force an adult into treatment. No matter what the parents had done, once he became an adult there was nothing they could have done unless he actually told them, "I bought 2 guns and tomorrow I am going to shoot a lot of people." An expression of generalized hatred would not be enough to get him locked up.

Answer 4

The court system and the school professors cared more about his problems and how it can translate into becoming a problem for others, but his family seems to have forsaken him. His great aunt (speaking from Korea), said that he was always disturbed (even before the age of 8). Why did the family wait until a judge mandated his treatment (they can only treat him for 72 hours, then they release him to seek help on his own or through family). It sounds like they let him down by neglecting his obvious needs for treatment. They allowed for him to self destruct and take other innocent lives too.

Answer 5

what i dont get is WHY he was ranting about rich people. i know his sister, i graduated with her. first off, they lived in centreville virginia. yes the neighborhood he was living in wasnt as upperclass as the surrounding areas, but this is a very affluant area. so he grew up with these "rich kids". his sister graduated from princeton and now works for the state department. so unless she got a full ride (which i doubt) then his family had some money to be putting her thru there & him at tech. i've heard comments on how there was a language barrier and that could have been an issue and i think that is BS. when i first met his sister, it was back in 95, so that was 12 years ago (and she was in 7th grade then, so that would mean he was still in elemtary school). so if he had a language problem, its because he didnt want to try and didnt want to make friends because at that age, there should be no problem by the time your in college.
as for why the parents didnt send him off to a mental ward, maybe its a cultural thing, i mean, maybe its dishonerable. maybe they didnt know (maybe no one told them)

Answer 6

one of his plays is about a child falsely accusing someone of sexual abuse. interestingly, that child throws darts at his step-father's picture and said, "kill dick, must kill dick" repeatedly. i immediately thought of sexual abuse when I read about him, and this fits with that theory.

in addition, because his family were immigrants and business owners, they probably didn't have a lot of time to devote to him, plus immigration itself is very difficult and causes problems for generations.

lots of subcultures, including many anglo-american ones, strongly stigmatize getting help for mental problems.

northern virginia is a tough area, too. it used to be different, before the 80s, but now the area is very superficial, materialistic, isolating. many form their own communities within the big community and have fairly normal lives, but without an in, you don't have the supports easily.

even tho northern virginia is a very transient area, there is still an ethic that if your grandparents weren't born here, let alone you, you're an outsider. the main social life, too, is tied to the church. tiny kids ask each other what church they belong to and often isolate people based on the answer.

the parents have a daughter who appears to have done well. maybe this kid hung out at the dry cleaners, and couldn't have had more time with his parents. maybe it all comes down to them not being brave enough to face his problems.

because they likely would have exposed their problems.

Answer 7

That's a typical reaction, we've got to have someone to blame and punish, we can't blame & punish Cho because he's dead, we can't blame & punish God because he doesn't exist, we can't really blame & punish the authorities because there are just too many of them to punish one person. So let's blame the parents, I expect the poor sods are as destroyed by this as the poor parents of the kids that were killed and they probably had as much idea as anyone else that this would happen to them. If you have kids just hope that they don't grow up to do anything like this you won't have any control over it.

Answer 8

Yes, the Parent's I believe had a primary role is possible averting the disaster on this crisis. The thing is that you shouldn't hate him, his partents or anyone in response to this. We must forgive him for our own peace of mind and heal from the experience, and realize someone who has been picked on and doesn't seek help, feels cornered, and shuts themselves off to the world is both unpredictable and possibly violent.

Answer 9

If his family knew about his problems before or by the age of 8 I hold them at responsible.

I'm a parent and I would blame myself if my child took the same actions.

I'm sorry if you disagree but we as parents are held accountable for our children. For their actions and beliefs.

Answer 10

someone had a sympathy ? for his family yesterday and i can understand yes they are victims also to a certain extent but that is exactly what i told them that if the parents knew this basket case had problems and issues why didn't they get him the appropriate help before all this unfolded i agree with you 110% you have a nice day.