My Ex girlfriend broke up with me a month. At the time, I was very unhappy with myself and my stressful life. Instead of making the proper changes, I started arguments with her over small things and held on to her dearly: Big mistake
background: we have been lovers for over 2 years and never been friends until now. I love her so much words cannot describe and in some ways, I believe she feels the same
I say this because we still talk twice a week and she's showed me she still care a lot about me; helping me with my finances and asking me if i feel better since i struggle with the separation for the first 2 weeks.
After break up, she wants to be my friend. Shes said "she want us to grow as friends first. If we can get along as friends; then, maybe, we can be together again one day."
Yesterday, we spoke to one another and she was surprised with changes in my life; I am doing things that are making me happy. Do I have a chance? if i do, any advice to improve relations?
2007-04-20 04:09:45 · 15 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you have a chance if she believes anyone can change but, if she is trying to change they way you do things then its wrong. You should never have to change for anyone. People need to like you for who your are even if you are a jerk. :)
My boyfriend of 3 years is a pain in my ***! He is such a jerk. He says the wrong things at the wrong time and it makes me soooo mad but, I did meet him this way and we got along great so I just say things right back to him and we end up play fighting. If you want to change because you were depressed before then by all means do it but do it to better yourself not for a girl.
Good Luck
2007-04-20 04:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by melaniejean862209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This particularly is an discipline the place you need to again off. Your fiancee is the one who ought to handle her and considering you mentioned that verbal conversation is futile and texting works for them, then he has to be given that and so do you. Being a mother I fully grasp her "supervising" her ex by way of texting him about when the medicine is due and different matters like that. If you and your fiancee have children you'll be smart to the change in the way in which men function and the best way ladies operate in regard to kids. Most guys when asked to have the kids within the pj's and capable for bed whilst mother goes out grocery browsing (or some thing) will feed the youngsters a large sugary snack right right earlier than bedtime and kinda under no circumstances get round to the precise preparations for bed and bedtime kinda method every time he gets tired of them and in the event that they combat him they would end up for your bed, on the sofa or anywhere they occurred to pass out. Most guys consider a well balanced meal to come back from MacDonalds (a burger, fries and a coke) and God forbid you ask a man to dress a little one effectively (you'll never be aware of what the youngster will end up sporting), so reduce her some slack too. It is no longer that your fiancee is dumb, he is just a guy and there is a monumental extraordinary in guys and girls. Just right good fortune to you and God Bless.
2016-08-11 01:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by salvalzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys sound like you would have a very happy life together. Being friends is an important part of being in a relationship. My husband is my best friend. Just try not to let yourself get back into that slump you were in. When one person is down, it drags the other down, and you don't want that cause that is a whole nest of trouble. Be sure to communicate well. If you are feeling overwhelmed and depressed, talk to her about it. Maybe she can help you. DON'T pick a fight with her for no reason.
Good Luck
2007-04-20 04:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by BamBam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see what you need to do is be friends first before lovers. A month is not long enough to make a true change. Besides we're both men we both know that she prob. did something as well. What I'm saying is make sure that she's the way that you want her to be as well. If she's right God will keep you together if not he'll get you someone else that is right and all the good things that you've done with this person will not compare to what he has in-store for you buddy.
2007-04-20 04:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Twan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a great chance with her. She obviously still cares alot about you or would not be helping you with your stuff. It's great that you are making healthy changes. That speaks alot to her. But she may not agree to get back together immediately because it takes time for a woman to believe that the changes are real. Give it time and continue to change and grow for YOUR benefit, not hers and then when she sees that it is real, she will come back.
2007-04-20 04:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by gt5879c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track. I would also like to suggest developing a relationship with God so that stress does not get the best of you. All of us have to deal with the pressures of this world. God is there to bear the burden for us. I know what God has done in my life through my faith and my prayers. I will pray for you and her. Sounds like you are a terrific guy who really loves this girl. Email me if you would like to pray together or talk about establishing a relationship with the Lord.
2007-04-20 04:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by OTOTW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She cares for you as a person and doesn't want to see you in pain. She knows that you have changed now, but if you two were to get back together, eventually you would go back to your old destructive ways.
She wants to see you get back up on your feet and learn to live without her. She is doing this in a compassionate way.
She did love you. However, once a female loses her love for her mate, it doesn't come back. She doesn't hate you, she just doesn't love you anymore.
2007-04-20 05:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jay,
Once again ur doing a wrong thing by saying that ur GF is EX to you. why do u think that she is Ex? Take out the word Ex from ur mind while seeing her. she has dropped ur love bcoz she may be more possessive about u. so start doing things which ur GF likes u to do and see the changes don't forget to mail me if my suggeston works out.
Regards,
Jayavanth.k
jayavanth_k@hotmail.com
2007-04-20 04:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by jayavanth K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and she haven't changed that much if you're talking about getting back together. Why bother with all that drama?
One chance per person per lifetime. It should be a bumper sticker.
2007-04-20 04:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing things that make YOU happy, it shouldn't matter. Just do it for YOU, not her. Then you will truly be happy and she will like you for YOU and not because you changed for her.
If you want to CHANGE someone, you really don't like who they are. So if she doesn't like you, AFTER you make yourself happy, then she doesn't have chemestry, with the REAL you. But she may just LOVE the real you.... the one that makes your inner light glow strong.
Good luck!
May your inner light shine bright for who YOU really are.
2007-04-20 04:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by hypnosisbyjill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋