I fell out with my close female friend-we didn't speak for 4 months-we got too close for comfort, I fell for her,she didn't feel the same.To deal with this,I broke contact-(not the best idea-I know!)
I iniated contact by asking if i can add her as a friend on Facebook.Contact has increased just THIS WEEK via Facebook(SHE INITIATED IT) It's like it used to be!
I invited her to our group roadtrip and she will join us!
I also want to invite my female friend (we're just friends-nothing has happened).
1. Would this be a possible problem???
2.Will my friend (the one where contact has been re-established)think I'm trying to make her jealous by bringing my other friend?
Advice please!
I'M NOT TRYING TO MAKE HER JEALOUS! - she turned me down-LIFE GOES ON!2 others have dropped out, hence inviting my other friend! She wasn't 1st choice!
2007-04-20 03:26:49 · 28 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Caroline - read the question! I do want to be friends-NOTHING MORE
2007-04-20 03:35:49 · update #1
There will be 5 of us!
2007-04-20 03:49:34 · update #2
You are way over thinking this. The first friend you re-established contact with wasn't interested in you physically but probably missed you as a friend. If your new female friend is just a friend too then it won't matter, it isn't like your trying to make anyone jealous or uneasy, your all just friends, and usually all friends get along with your other friends, plus it would make it more fun.
2007-04-20 03:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you posted before about your family coming to stay in your very small flat. i answered then. But having the baby induced won't stop post natal depression if you are going to get it, i never got it with 3 pregnancies. You really should have a word with your family and ask them to give you a few weeks to get over the birth and bond with your baby before they visit, as you are not close they shouldn't take preference to the welfare of you and your baby and if they have any thought at all they should understand that. please don't be pressured into having visitors at this stressful time or you are asking for post natal depression, simply through the sheer worry. i really don't think the doctors will induce you for that reason. Also doctors always give you 2 weeks either way of your due date and class it as full term, because there is no way of knowing exactly the date you conceived, you can ovulate on different days each month and it is possible to ovulate more than once in one month without knowing. What if they induce you for no good reason and your actual date is 2 weeks after your due date, that would make your baby 5 weeks premature. Please don't risk the health of your baby for a family you aren't close to in the first place. Stand up for yourself. Good luck.
2016-05-19 21:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing...it's not your friend's fault that you made the move. No, you weren't in the wrong for doing so, but you are the reason the relationship was disrupted and landed on another path. If you want to bring your other friend, fine, but realize that yes, there will be awkward moments. Why would you choose this the first time you and your estranged friend got together. Realize that this time is an opportunity to talk and smooth over any rough or uncomfortable patches in the friendship. By bringing someone else, you are in effect saying she doesn't matter. Another time, maybe...but the fact is, if you wanted this friendship to continue, you would think about how to go about it rather than dragging someone else there. It won't be fair to your new friend to stick her in the middle of an old situation the two of you have not resolved.
2007-04-20 03:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be entitled to invite who you want, your other friend the one that you've re-established contact with might think you're trying to make her jealous but at the end of the day you are entitled to be friends with who you want and take who you want, it's her problem if she has other ideas.
2007-04-20 03:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite both of them. You don't want to lose another female friend (or the same old one again). If it's just friendship you're after I'm sure all parties will be fine with the arrangement.
2007-04-20 04:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by anastasia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in her mind she will probably think ur trying to make her jealous but she aint want to be with u so her fault. bring ur new friend that u like.
however she might of thought u was bk interested when u asked to be friends on facebook but her fault for jumping to conclusions, especially if she is the one doing all the contacting.
u should not feel bad about bringing ur new friend along and she should be happy to be bk friends with u and that u invited her to go with yall. but i think u should let her know who's all going so her mouth wont be wide open when she see u all up on the new friend :-)
2007-04-20 03:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good idea because if the road trip goes well and you have fun TOGETHER including your other friend, she'll be 100% convinced that your over her.
Theres nothing wrong with inviting somebody else, just make sure in advance that she knows she is comming. Surprises arn't always good..
2007-04-20 04:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sahra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can invite your new friend.If she is only a friend,what's the drama?Your old friend will probably be happy that you have met new people and by asking her along,it proves you are obviously over her and what happened between you two.She will be happy to just be able to hang out with you again,like you used to.
2007-04-20 04:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm difficult one - does friend1 (poss romantic interest) know friend2? Speaking from experience (and yes some may think I'm wierd!!), but I generally can't take to women who are from my fiances past (even though no story there). The ones I DO like are the ones who make the effort to get to know ME. How do you reckon friend2 would react to friend1, if she tried to be buddys with her as her own person, and not just through you, it may be okay........but, it's all about personalities and possible clashes! Ask them what they think - it'd be a shame for the trip to be messed up if 2 women are sniping at each other! Sorry can't help more!
2007-04-20 03:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
from a woman's point if i was her i would think that you wer trying to make me jealous it just depends how you and this other woman are with each other is it a flirty kind of friend ship you have etc know wat i mean is there anyone else you can invite? hey just let her know in advance who's coming if she truly has a problem then she will decline you cant revolve a trip around one persons reaction good luck
2007-04-20 04:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋