i have been married for two years and i still dont know how to treat my husband?

Question

in every respect i need to know how would u like ur wife to be.or how a good wife must behave.i seriously need guidence.he is so loving and understanding that he never made me realise it that im not up to the mark.but i know he needs more out of me and i wish i knew what all i can do 4 him

Answer 1

Love him, the rest will fall into place.
Also, the most important thing in a marriage is communication, work on good communication.

Answer 2

If your man is like me, he's looking for a friend. Someone who he can enjoy all the highs and lows that life will offer. A lover and someone to be proud of him when he's at his happiest, and a shoulder to cry on he's at his saddest. Pretty much the same as you would want, I would guess. Most men don't have a need to dominate over others, but at the same time don't want to be dominated over. An equal, a friend, a partner would be a good way to be, I'd guess. The best thing to do I think would be talk to your husband. If you are worried about being a good wife, then ask him how good of a job you are doing. He'll probably think that is the sweetest thing he's ever heard.
God bless to you and yours...

Answer 3

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little flirty and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Answer 4

Just think about his needs. Put yourself in his shoes. Does he work outdoors in the heat? Bring his crew some cold drinks or something once in awhile. Maybe he works long days. Give him a massage sometimes to help him relax. Do whatever the opposite of work is. Home is where you come for relief from that. If you also work, you know what this means.

Treat him like a KING and you are SURE to be treated like a queen, if he is the good man you say he is.

Answer 5

Well for starters how do you know you are a bad wife? He isn't saying so. As far as if he needs more, then why don't you ask him? If you think he won't tell you, tie him up and tease him, asking him just what you can do for him, keep teasing and tell him you won't stop till he comes clean...... if nothing else it might make for a fun night.

Answer 6

Are you afraid to ask him what he thinks you are not doing? if you want to be the best woman for him, then speak up and ask questions.

Maybe you don't fold his shirts the way he likes them folded, who knows, but until you ask questions, you will be stuck in this rut you are currently in. Believe me, he will tell you if there is something that he would like you to do more of or like you to do less of.

Good luck

Answer 7

just by having this tho about gettin better its a big step hun ur rdy showin that u love the guy and want to get better for him.
=) just do what u do, and ask him what he would want for u to do more, or stop doing, a great communication is the key for a great relationship.

Answer 8

I know fo sure, you know to yourself what else you haven't showed him or give him... I think all you need to do is submit everything to him for you to show him back how you love him and how to be a good wife for him. There are no guidelines on how to please your other half, but once you know your husband VERY WELL then that would be easy for you to please him and reciprocate his treatment for you or avoid things that would ruin your relationship.

Answer 9

All you need to do for him, is to love him with all your heart, and let him love you. When you think you two are in the mood, you can give him a little extra happy time, if you know what i mean.lol but all you really can do, is love him. thats all he really needs frome you.good luck.

Answer 10

As long as you love him and respect him, and talk to him, there should be no problems.
Every marriage is different , and there is no "mark" that you can make, or no model that should aspire to.