Do you ever feel alone?

Question

I am 25 years old and single, I get so lonely and need advice to help end my suffering.

Answer 1

Feeling alone and feeling lonely are two different things. I am often alone, but when I am, I find dozens of things to do, productive things, that keep me from being lonely. But, even on occasion, the feeling of loneliness is perhaps good, it reminds us of our need to be connected to others in this world, and ultimately that is what life is all about.

Answer 2

You must have friends, and if not get out more and meet people. Don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself, it will only depress you more. It is the beginning of ending some of your suffering. You're to young to feel So very lonely. Join some kind of singles club, through a church, or maybe groups that advertise in your area. You will at least have a start and make new friends and maybe long lasting relationships.

Answer 3

Sorry you feel like this it's a horrible feeling. I am happily married with a family and still have times of feeling lonely, it can happen to anyone at anytime . They say you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely, it's a state of mind isn't it. I'm going to say what everyone else will, try and get out a bit more, try and do something that interests you where you are likely to meet people, easier said than done I know. I would find it difficult to go somewhere where I didn't know anyone. I suppose once you do it, it becomes easier, just need to take the plunge. I think most of us get in a bit of a rut sometimes. Go for it, I'm sure you're a great guy!

Answer 4

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Being single at 25 is not the end of the world. Having a relationship should not make you fel better about yourself, as most of the married people in this world will tell you they dream of their single days!!

Alone is not having anyone in the world to talk to, hang with, whatever. That is a tough one. But if you are in fact alone, look at the things you like to do. Are there clubs in your area you can join? Finding other people who enjoy the same activities you do is a good way to make new friends and to broaden your world through their eyes.

Lonlely is normal. Most people will tell you that they feel lonely at certain times. If a person lives across the country from their family, holidays can be a very lonely time. You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. Don't worry, like I said, it is normal.

If you feel that you need more help that what you can find here, please talk to someone who can give you an unbiased opinion. Sek a counselor or pastor. These poeple will give you point blank answers and not sugar coat it in order to spare your feelings. Thy are trained to help and sometimes the help may seem painful in the beginning, but in the end it will be worth it.

If you need to talk, e-mail me.

Answer 5

At least you are single and feel lonely.....I am in a relationship (3 yrs) and I can be in the same room with my boyfriend and still feel alone. I feel invisible around him.
So...my advice is even if you feel lonely don't rush into a relationship to cure your loneliness because that doesn't always work. I think you should look for ways to make new friends or reconnect with some old ones. Join a gym. Find a church. There are plenty of other lonely people there and you could find common interests with someone from there and who knows what might happen.. Be Happy!!

Answer 6

Join Single Volunteers, Inc: http://singlevolunteers.org/ There's probably a chapter near you.

This group sends out volunteers in batches of equal numbers of males and females to perform volunteer work in the community. It could be anything from working a cookout for a retirement home to helping build a house for Habitat for Humanity or helping clear the rubble for a family who's had a house fire or organizing books and clothing that have been donated to a charitible group. You choose which events you want to work and sign up by internet to participate.

The way you end your suffering is by filling yourself up on the inside by helping others who are worse off or who need your help... and simultaneously meeting a large number of high quality people who are in the same situation as you are... single... and not into the bar scene to try to meet people.

You're only lonely by choice once you join this group. Between participating in as many events as you want... and then the social gatherings they have that are "non-working" events, you'll be lucky if you have time to catch your breath!

My best to you...

Answer 7

I agree, give Karla b a holler, you all maybe a good match. Also I want to say to you, pick up a hobby or join some type of social organization or club. Also a pet is good to have, especially a cute little puppy they are so loving and cute but I say cherish this time while you have it. Work on getting some of the short comings in your life together because there will be a time in your life where you will wish you could get some alone time. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you, so just concentrate on getting yourself together and being on yahoo answers, you can meet nice people like karla b and maybe you call can start to email each other and become friends. Good luck

Answer 8

If you read some of the posts here and in Singles and Dating, you'll see that not everyone is instantly not lonely in a relationship. Sometimes it's actually worse.

Learn to be comfortable being by yourself. Date yourself - go to movies and fancy restaurants. Take yourself for walks in the park. Learn to appreciate who you are, and when the right person comes along, they'll appreciate who you are, too.

And you're 25. That's still very young.

Answer 9

I am sorry that you feel lonely. :( What is really unfortunate is when you are married and feel lonely (which is me). Maybe you can try to hang out with friends sometimes. It is a good way to get out of your shell. Another really great thing is to get a pet. A dog or cat ..bird maybe whatever you like. Something you can take care of and something you can play with. Its also great that your pet is there when you get home and waiting for you. :) You are very young. So am I (22) do some things that you enjoy and break open that shell. You will be happy and feel better in time. :) you will be alright :) Good luck to you

Answer 10

Stop waiting for someone else to make you happy & fulfilled. Seek your happiness now, with your life as it is. The only person who you know will *always* be in your life is yourself. Why not work on that relationship for a while? Why not become the person who you want to be, whether you are with someone or not.

Do things that you enjoy doing. Try new things. Join clubs that include other people who enjoy doing the same things you do. Don't do it with the intention of finding a partner. Do it with the intention of learning more about the things that you love to do. If you happen to meet someone special while there, then count yourself lucky. If not, well, you're still doing things that you love to do & being the person who you love to be.

Answer 11

Join something locally to where you live. Could be a club, evening classes, even a darts team at your local. Joining a group of people with similar interests to you is a lot better cure for feelings of loneliness than getting a partner, because with a group like that there are no expectations or pressures and no danger of you becoming totally reliant on one person. Once you feel better about yoursalf and your ability to socialise, you will meet someone special much more easily.