a few questions about marriage counseling??

Question

My husband and I need marriage counseling. I dont want my famiy to know we have to go to counseling, their negative people and I dont need anymore negativety I've got enough of that. We have 2 kids and counseling closing at 5 and my husband doesnt even get home til 6 or 7 and works one hour away from home. How can we seek counseling with no one to watch our children and his late hours? What can we expect out of marriage counseling? What are the sessions like/about? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!

Answer 1

Marriage counselors' hours vary. When I went through it, I was in your boat. We found one that was open until 6 pm and had weekend appointments, as well.

If you cannot find a counselor, talk to a local pastor. Chances are they can help or know of someone who can help in your situation.

Your family does not have to know anything you do not want them to know. This is between your husband and yourself. Besides, if they found out you were seeking help to keep your marriage, do you think they would be more negative toward you if you told them that you were letting the marriage go without fighting for it? In my opinion, it is better to fight for it and lose (if it comes to that) than to give up before the fight starts. Make sense?

There are avenues of approach, and I hope you find the help you are looking for.

Good luck

Answer 2

Take a couple of horse of vacation or medical leave while the kids are in day care, or try to seek counseling during the weekends and after hours, yes, there are counselors that have such hours as well as marriage seminars and workshops that are done during the weekends.

I understand that you don;t want to tell your family about this (been there!!!). It's not easy to come to grips that your marriage needs repair and you don't need the extra stress of judgmental and insensitive people. However, I do recommend for you to vent through a trusted and discreet friend, you will need this support during difficult times.

What can you expect? Homework. You have to prepared to listen, go with an open mind and to communicate in a different way that you are used to. I learned a lot during counseling and it helped me as a person tremendously.

Be prepared to hear t hings that you didn't know or that you weren't aware off. The purpose of counseling is not to blame anyone for what has happen, but rather to acquire the communication and coping skills to get over the problems, heal and coomunicate in a healty way in order improve the marriage.

I hope that I helped.

Good luck

Answer 3

We have one in our area that stays open till 8 one day per week. Look around and maybe you`ll find one. They will talk about both of your feelings and what it is that`s bogging down the marriage. They just ask questions so you both can get a new perspective on things. As for child care, you said you have family in the area? They don`t need to know your business. Just tell them your going out to dinner or something and you would appreciate them watching the kids.

Answer 4

Perhaps you could get counseling from a church nearby. There are many of them that offer counseling and have flexible hours and have someone to watch the kids. Good luck !

Answer 5

some human beings could desire to circulate on meds...I did. i'm off them now. I each and every each and every now and then question in the event that they helped or not yet they did for the main area. a minimum of she made that attempt to help herself yet I consider you on each and every thing else. extraordinarily on the grounds that shes asserting oh wait till the counselor hears this. Its like shes looking a uncomplicated way out and warding off the issue for somebody else. She has subjects she cant administration and that i do have faith she desires to alter deep down interior yet that doesnt help your marriage now. i think of maximum counselors managing couples could desire to communicate with the persons seperately. This i'm specific could be carried out in inner maximum with out your spouse even understanding. Then in step with probability the counselor can propose to your spouse to chat to him one on one yet he shouldn't make it sound like its a "your turn" form deal he could desire to attitude it like "i think of you're able to desire to communicate with me on my own" If the counselor breaks any confidentiality then he could desire to lose his license. in case you nonetheless experience like its not working then you definately can definitely look your self interior the reflect years from now and tell your self you tried now its time to get on consisting of your lifestyles. Your spouse won't be waiting to look herself interior the reflect such as you would be doing.