What do you do when someone you love has deceived you? When a friendship has been tarnished.?

Question

How do you walk through the darkness when they asked too be forgiven and you are left with soo much hurt and pain and feel their pain so great....

Answer 1

i am stupid when it comes to things like this. i usually forgive and forget. it makes me feel like an idiot for being that way and that's what i hate about myself the most, but on the bright side it kinda makes things better. good luck.

Answer 2

Being deceived is not something you can just get over just like that. YOur heart needs time to heal. Is the 'friendship' finished for good....do you feel you can't trust this person ever again or can you forgive. It doesn't mean you'll forget..unfortunately that isn't possilbe...but for you to Forgive is something y ou have to search your soul for and see if you can do that....then let it go.....and try to rebuild the friendship.......IF you feel you can't forgive.......then that's something only you can work through and move on with your life. GOOD LUCK and BEST WISHES*
(as painful as it is for you right now...think....have you not ever made a major mistake and asked someone for your forgiveness.....?? )
COMMUNICATION HONESTY AND TRUST are the three keys to a long healthy relationship/friendship...without those you have nothing*

Answer 3

You move on. I know it's a horrible thing to say but I did the same thing. I ditched my best friend for a man. For 2 years I abandoned my friend, then when the realtionship ended, I realized what I had done. I promised myself in this new realtionship I'm in if my boyfriend does not like my friend, then he's not even worth my time. One of you is going to be wrong, you just have to wait until someone admits it. Time is a horrible thing.

Answer 4

You let go of that friendship.. but hold on to the good memories.. keeping a tarnished friendship is only makes it worst..You let go with no hard feelings because is the best for you. try and let go the bad taste and go on with your life.

Answer 5

If you have been deceived then you have lost trust in that person...hard to regain.
Take some time and space to regroup and see how you really feel about everything before you deal with this person. If it makes you feel better, you could even tell them that is what you need to do and they need to do some soul searching too.

be cool...

Answer 6

They asked to be forgiven, forgive them, but don't go back into the same situation.
The pain and hurt will eventually go away.

Answer 7

met some one recenttly(old age home) and even thou i was, doing , rug kleaning at this old age complexx(iam 21) i met a 46 year old, guy who lived there(disablity payments, etc the rules have changed with h,u,d) you can be, younger than 65 too get into these placess) anyways i met this 46 year old resident in the hallway and we got too talking etc. he asked me if i knew of any female clients(single) so i got his phone number and tryed introducing him too one of our many single lady clients) the 46 year old had on a suit and tye. and just moved into this old age home. as it turns out he acted like the reeerend type. owe what a mistake. hes nothing but a hard core drunk- 24-7- and a dope userr. and runs too bars and, picks up cheap hookeers. the clent(female) i introduced him too, checked him out when he walked threw her door carrying, bottles of booze in a book bag flung over his shoulder blades. and when he, was too leave he wanted too spend his last 8.00 on booze-- never again--

Answer 8

You have to decide if you can/want to forgive them.Your friend has to understand it's going to take alot for you to trust them again.If you don't think you can forgive them then the friendship isn;t going to work,you'll constantly feel angry with your friend all the time and that's when all the problems begin

Answer 9

the best thing is to learn to forgive. that will ease the pain.
forgiving does not necessarily means reconciling. move on with life.

Answer 10

i just sit back and laugh