2007-04-20 01:22:23 · 16 answers · asked by Pluto 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both parents have legal custody
2007-04-20 02:02:40 · update #1
My ex and her mother are constantly telling me that my son is "none of your business" it doesn't matter if I inquire about a doctors appointment, to wondering where he was when mom was out of town, and who it was watching him. I of course, have first right of refusal, but in three years, been given that right 2 times. Taking her to court to have the order enforced is a 6 to 7 month ordeal, and the judge thinks its petty complaints. They are more worried about whether or not support is being paid on time, which is governed by other entities besides the court. (driver license etc.) Us men are just trying to be involved with our kid's lives, but women are prone to keep the vindictiveness, and bitter feelings around for as long as possible. Its OK for women like that to hurt their children just to get a rise out of their ex. I know not all women are that way, its just you won't have an easy time finding men who behave that way.
2007-04-20 02:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the person who said you are the father so you have no rights. My nephew has found that out. He has 3 kids and is the most stable of the 2 parents, but they gave the kids to the mom, she doesn't have to tell him anything, he is supposed to tell her everything, and she gets all the money to use anyway she wants. You could have someone follow her to see where she takes them and then if you think it is not a safe place, go to court. Otherwise, unfortunately, you have someone who is not going to make your life easy for you for a very long time. Good luck to you. Sorry
2007-04-20 01:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most decrees have written into them that both parents must inform one another of anything relating to the well being of their children. Who watches them is part of the well being. (you have a right to run background checks, in most states) Also, if he's able, the father should take the mother to court and have amended that the father has the 'right of first refusal'. Meaning, if mother needs child care, she needs to ask the father if he can watch them first before making other arrangements.
2007-04-20 01:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actuality is they hung out mutually and by that factor made the main suitable dedication to a minimum of one yet another. no longer understanding the circumstances in the back of the divorce in the event that they stay friends then there is not any longer something incorrect with that. If it have been a count of your husband being secretive approximately his conversations which would be one million factor, yet while the calls happen as quickly as a 300 and sixty 5 days then there incredibly isn't something to tension approximately. for sure he has made his dedication to you via marrying.. His courting along with his ex-spouse no longer withstanding has morphed into something distinctive. conversing from very own journey my ex and that i've got no longer spoken extra beneficial than 2-three times on condition that our separation and divorce yet she will continuously have a undeniable place in my heart and as such I mite decide to nicely known how she is doing and if she is definitely. Its extra from a place of subject and well-being. no longer because of the fact I desire to re-mild a failed marriage...
2016-10-28 13:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a man so unfortuanatly the courts will only abuse you.... Join some support groups for men on yahoo.
Seriously, you have zero rights. 'Rights' are only for women. Sorry you had to find out the hard way.
2007-04-20 01:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Put_ya_mitts_up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe as a father you DO have every right to know who is watching your kids.It could be an unfit person therefore speak to a lawyer about this.Good Luck
2007-04-20 01:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Michael Jackson 1958 - FOREVER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is totally wrong for not telling you this, the next time she goes out, call one of your kids and ask them to tell you about the baby sitter, and then talk to the baby sitter yourself, if you're convinced that your kids are being exposed to a bad one, then go to her place and get your kids out of there...
2007-04-20 01:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your right as their father to know who is watching your kids.. talk to your attorney or take her back to court and have the judge involved
2007-04-20 01:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law requiring it, if that is what you mean, but on the same token, there is no law preventing you from informing the ex husband either.
2007-04-20 01:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have a right to know.If not you could take her to court for child endangerment.
2007-04-20 01:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋