Your "boyfriend", I use this term loosely, has moved in to help out with you while you are in the last month of pregnancy. Not his child. 2 weeks after being in the hospital, you are just starting to be strong enough to do little things even though you are EXAHUSTED from getting up a few hours for feedings. He now isn't helping out with any chores or helping out with the bills. He always has excuses that all his money is going towards gas and truck maintence, etc. He chipped in with my baby's baptism, then got stoned afterwards and denied it and was REALLY crappy towards me and our 2 year old daughter. He did the dishes yesterday which is the first thing he has done around the house in 2 weeks.
2007-04-20 00:18:49 · 10 answers · asked by Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
bad boy
dump him liv with ur parents for help maybe
get councilling if needed
dont stand for laziness if he wants u he has 2 work 4 it
2007-04-20 00:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Me! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dump him. He's a complete loser and is not even a real Man. a Real man would take care of his woman. He would do everything in his power to make sure she is happy and comfortable (Assumeing she is not abusing his care giving) He should also dump the truck and get something that doesn't need gas every 30 seconds. If he really needs a truck there are more economical trucks avalible. Also if I where you I would stop dating until your childen are grown up and have moved out of the house. Stop bringing jerks like this in to thier lives. It's jerks like this that you hear about and read about on the news that he beat, sexually abused, or killed a young child. You main concern should be the wellfair of the childeren. not rather or not you have a guy. If you have to move back in with your parents. but get rid of this guy and stop picking losers. you childern will suffer sooner or later if you don't.
2007-04-20 07:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see,talk to him first off, not yelling or raising cane with him.Tell him how you feel that you just had this baby and you are extremely tie rd that you really like it if he could help out more,if it were me i think i would kick him to the curb for the simply fact that he sounds like a loser who would rather get high then to take care of the responsibilities of a family. What kind of repairs is he doing to the truck. Kick him out you can do better. You can always ask your parents for some help.
2007-04-20 07:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Missy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first you say its not his child and then at the end you say OUR 2yr daughter- which is it?
I say if you live with someone(either married or not) you need to say upfront what expenses each is responsible for and after the first month , 1 doesn't pay their part; time to kick them out.sounds like you are doing all the bill paying, so since you can pay the bills on your own without his help then kick him out. change the locks. you don't need to have this freeloader or bad influence in your home in front of YOUR 2 yr old. you deserve to be treated better and help with paying the bills, and since he doesn't kick him out today. he is just a getting a free ride and he knows it. KICK HIM OUT TODAY! NOW!! this is what I would do personally.
2007-04-20 07:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you're alot wiser than you give yourself credit for and it also seems like you know what you're going to do.
Regardless of whether he was your housekeeper and chef and masseur on tap, if he's not treating you in an appropriate manner you don't need him around. Not to mention his disregard for you and your child by getting stoned and then behaving badly.
It sounds like he's not yet grown up and he thinks it's okay to go back to his old habits (that's assuming he even left them in the first place). But remember, even though he's living with you, unless it was pre-organised that he'd help out financially etc, he's not exactly obliged to - sorry if that sounds like something you don't want to hear. I'm sure the money would make it easier for you but do you honestly want money from someone who'se treating you and your child badly?
If it's not what you want in your relationship, tell him to leave.
It's simple but difficult to do I'd imagine.
Good luck!
Meg
2007-04-20 07:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by ausbabe29_megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard to be a single parent especially with little ones. Me personally, my x moved out when our son was almost 2 months old. It is easier to kick him to the curb, he is just holding ya back. In the long run, you will realize that you are stronger than you think. I have been there and done that. Good luck to you
2007-04-20 07:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Judy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are raising two children under the same roof with someone who does drugs. What would I do? If I knew your name, I'd report you to CPS.
2007-04-20 07:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please appreciate the little he is doing.. When you insist he should do more, he is becoming a rebel.. Work on him slowly and with love and he may just become a house man
2007-04-20 07:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to move out!!
2007-04-20 07:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trough him out!!!! NOW!!!!
2007-04-20 07:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by CillieM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋