hello there, i'm really fed up with what is happening around me at home, we have a 2 1/2 yr old boy, it seems when his a little naughty i get the blame, because i'm at work less than him. which i feel is wrong i work, pay bills, drop & pick up, clean etc, while in return i get "what have u b'n doing all day" is this normal? i'am a surfer love b'n outdoors i feel i'am pretty carefree person(or i was) i'am just really fed up with the disagreements ,i have at home, my son lately seems to be really angry, he has been a little naughty at kiny, i'm feel imbarresed and feel to blame, this isn't me i have given up my lifestyle, myself to bring our son up, he likes to drink and gamble his money while i save. we don't have anything in common. we can't even go to the supermarket 2gether without having conflick and at the same time our son is seeing us behave like this. i come from a strict backgroud, so i do know what is right for me i guess, the hardest thing to do is DO IT. help thanxxxxxxxxx
2007-04-20 00:04:04 · 8 answers · asked by leesurfgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its hard to have a job and raise a toddler, plus all the household duties. My husband wasn`t very supportive during this time either. My concern for you is that he drinks and gambles. This could be the real core to your problem. You definitely need to give him an ultimatum...... Shape up, or Ship out! He has all of HIS freedom while your shouldering the rest. He needs to pull his share of the load. I think I would get out of that relationship. The problem is your husband, not your son.
2007-04-20 00:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. tough situation. I'm sorry that things have added up to make you feel like this.
As for what to do?... well I say talk to him about it.. tell him what you feel, and try to make him compromise. It will probably start a fight.. but it will also get him thinking.
If he loves you, he should at least attempt to meet you somewhere in the middle.
If he refuses to budge, then unfortunatley, you may need to end the relationship and move on. Nothing will hurt your son more than seeing mommy and daddy angry and upset all the time.
2007-04-20 07:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi. please remember that these r only opinions but i feel that yr son could b misbehaving because of the tension in yr house. maybe u should try to get some family counseling to try and rectify the problems between u and yr partner b4 it affects yr son too much. Good luck i hope things work out 4 the better.
2007-04-20 07:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by donna111 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly, you child is 2 and half!!! kids have something called the "terrible twos"... it happens...
but you need to discipline him and your partner and you need to be a united front with the child or he'll see this as the norm... then you are lost...
if you wanna chat to a parent of a 4 year old, gimme a shout... :D
2007-04-20 07:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it - do what's screaming at you from your heart and your head....
Life's hard and probably will be for awhile. Your 'terrible two's tot' will also settle down (hopefully) once you've calmed down and he's in a more stable and settled enviroment.
2007-04-20 07:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is old enough to live alone and earn money himself.you can't alltime earn for him.he should work.in future he ll have his own family.will you earn money to his family too?talk to him immediatly.
2007-04-20 07:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by fidan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear with it.. He is not matured enough to accept family responsibilities.. In time to come, he may change.. However please don't fight in front of your child..
2007-04-20 07:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pathetic.
2007-04-20 07:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋