I am so depressed right now... please ............?

Question

My girl friend has just decided to leave me beause I couldn't convert to Muslim. I am a christian and we have been together for seven years. She said she has waited for me this long hoping I would convert to Muslim. Now I am feeling very lone and so much depressed. I have not had any girl friend before. she was my first and I always wished she would be my last but it didn't work that way.
Would you please confront me with your words........?

Answer 1

Tell her that you are the MAN. You are or will be the head of household. It is your job to set the direction for the family. In order for you to do that she must support you emotionally, financially, and "spiritually" or it would never work. You knew she was Muslim seven years ago. What the heck were you thinking. Why wait till now to have this discussion. You neglected to have this conversation sooner now you are paying the price. Maybe you can still be friends, and you should work on that. The relationship is over shame on the both of you for neglecting your spiritual side for an emotional connection. The good thing is that life goes on. Take this as a learning experience and move on.

Answer 2

I will most assuredly confront you with my words. First of all the first girlfriend being the last is kind of a dumb concept. What would have happened ten years from now had someone better come along? You would have just thrown up your hands and said "Oh well... I wanted my first to be my last so I'll stick by that"? Thats something that I just don't get in people. Another thing, if religion played such a major role in your relationship then you should have seen this coming from a mile away. People convert all the time, and love is the dumbest reason ever to do it. So stand up and be proud. And just for future reference its not Muslim... It is Islam. Have a good one, and I hope my confrontarional words helped.

Answer 3

Unfortunatlly, I have seen this a few times. Religion is always a touchy subject, especially when they differ between a couple.

7 years is a long time, and you are well deserving of a bit of feeling depressed and alone.

I would suggest greiving for a while (not too long) and then going out with some friends. Once you have been single for long enough to know who you are, and what you feel... then try to date someone else.

I have had great luck with all of my past relationships lasting a long time.. however it did take 4 relationships before I found someone that I was able and willing to marry. We have been married for several years and are just as strongly together now as we were when we first met.

Have a bit of faith.. it WILL get better... it just takes time.

Answer 4

I'm not a christian myself but it sounds like you had a lucky escape! Just think how depressed you would be if you had've converted to a religion you don't really feel comfortable with. You would've been lying to yourself and your girlfriend. Find yourself a nice girl who respects your religion and who you are. Relationships should never start with one party thinking how they could improve or change the other. You sound devastated but you can't be with someone who is with you only to try to change you. If she wanted to date a Muslim then she should've started dating one - not a christian. Find someone you can be yourself with. Your time will come, don't worry :)

Answer 5

Sorry that this happened to you but keep in mind that anyone who really loves you will never try to change you...
Not many end up with their first girlfriend/boyfriend so don't be so upset... I'm sure that when the real one girl for you comes by, you won't need to change a thing to spend an amazing lifetime together...

Best of Luck!!

Answer 6

If she wants to separate you from your God then she is not the one for you. I notice that she didn't make any steps to convert to becoming a Christian either. If that is the only thing that mattered to her, then she needs to go find herself a Muslim. You can definately find better.

Answer 7

hey pal...listen up. it's ok. it's not the end of the world. there are lots of other girls out there who will be better than this one, i assure you. wat's more, they could be christian as well.
i don't think ur girlfriend truly loved as much as u loved her. ask urself, would she convert to christianity in order to marry u?
i guess u tried ur best u get something out of this relationship. be satisfied that u tried ur best. always look at the silver lining, i.e. the positive. perhaps u 2 weren't meant to b married! perhaps u have a much better girl who'll love u much more waiting for u out there!!
go ahead and enjoy life mate!!

Answer 8

"she was my first and I always wished she would be my last but it didn't work that way."

you can still make that statement come true
all you have to do is don't find another girlfriend for life

but again, you should know better before getting yourself a Muslim girl.

Answer 9

Friend. i m having the same situation here. I m Hindu and She is christian. she most of time says me to belive in jesus as my only and only god. but i say no. we fought 2 times for the same issue. But as i care for her more than any one she comes back to me. So if u really loves her much than She cannot leave u. and changing the religion i dont agree. Just be what u r. In which religion god gave birth just be in the same. but beside this dont u ever stop loving her.

Answer 10

there is nothing but time that will heal you, it wouldn't work unless you would convert, but don't. live and learn. it won't help, but your better off in the long run. You would think she would have said this before now, so she really wasn't that great.