My lover of five years has just asked me to be his girlfriend, finally, after some hardships we went through. We were together last year, but some **** happened, and we ended up lying to each other a lot, and we lost each others trust. He has finally decided that he can work things out with me, but he is still hurt from the things I did to him. I want to show him that he can trust me, that I am not the type of girl I used to be. I want him to see that I have changed for the better for him. What is the best way to go about doing this, to make him see that he can trust me again, and that it is okay for him to truly love me again? What would also be some good ideas to do with him, to spice things up? We have been together for five years, exclusively, and we have done pratically everything there is to do in san antonio. Any good date ideas too?
2007-04-19 23:14:36 · 5 answers · asked by Francesca O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to build a good history. Don't do him wrong, and don't do things that will look bad even if you know nothing wrong is happening. Sorry but after you lose trust, building a trust is going to be an uphill battle. Your guy must really like you to even let you try.
2007-04-20 13:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, my dear, but stop fooling each other. You are betteroff without each other. In fact if after 5 years of togetherness you both could lie to each other, you would do it any day again. Besides, if you could not understand each other's compulsions or mistakes then, you are not going to understand it ever.
If you really want to live a healthy enjoyable life the best thing is find a tame soul for yourself, they are inabundance out there. And, if you really owe it to the guy you are talking about then help him find another tame soul for him, atleast you will find a friend if not for ever for a very long time. May be some times you would be able to treat yourself with those San Antonio activities even with you old friend.....just for a change. It actually works.
2007-04-28 06:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by iiiyyyeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing the wrong you did was cheated on him. Nothing could bother me after years of being with a woman other than another relationship she has with someone. It could be a friend that I feel she is too close with or whatever the case. I don't give second chances. If you cheated I wouldn't be with you. If he is willing to be with you after you cheated on him then you have to really show him you are trust worthy again. This is near impossible. You need to call him any time you are out and about with out him. If you are out with the girls take a couple minutes to call and just say "I was thinking about you. Just saying hey." He will be out doing his thing also so don't hold him back from your time apart. This call is to simply put his mind at ease knowing you are still doing what you said you were doing. You don't have to point out you are still doing what you said you were doing. Just knowing he is in you thoughts during the times you are away from him will help him see that you are truly only interested in him.
Of course I'm guessing it was cheating that cause the problems. If you didn't cheat or something similar then disregard this message as it doesn't really count as an answer.
2007-04-28 03:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE ONE HELL OF A GUY THERE!!!! 95% OF GUYS WHO LOSE TRUST IN THEIR WOMAN WON'T GIVE THAT SECOND CHANCE. ALL I CAN SAY IS GOOD LUCK TO YOU TWO.
2007-04-27 23:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by feefeedunbar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too late Man eater, once bitten twice shy!!
2007-04-28 00:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by roostertail2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋