The Bible????

Question

I know the Bible says honor thy father&mother and that is what i've always tried to do. But does that mean in matters of relationship or personal matters in your life? My mom continuously expresses disapproval over my relationship with a guy because hes older than I am (48 and i'm 25). I don't think it's a big deal but she sure does. I'm just wondering if i'm "dishonoring" her by continuing a relationship that obviously bothers her so much? I know that you live your own life but i'm just beginning to wonder if she's seeing things that I might not see.,,,

Answer 1

Your mother is just guiding you on your security and safety while still young. Maybe she came to her knowledge that the man you love is married to some other woman that is why she is doing her best to disappoint you from that love. Your mother loves you and she do not want you to be fallen to a married man or a womanizing man.
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Answer 2

Well, you are 25 and as such adult. In that sense it is your life.

However, your mother may be looking at things from the practical perspective? If you marry and have children, you'll be at least 26 / 27. He will be correspondingly 50!

If you have two more children in lets say another five years. Then the last child will be born when he is 55. He might not live to see the children grow up.

People start falling on the wayside more rapidly from ca 55 -- am I wrong? Heart attacks, etc!

How are you going to be able to handle such an economic burden? That is the question.

This is probably what your mother thinks about?

The guy may be really nice and in that regard a good choice? Of course, how many children does he already have?
How many responsibilities does he already care for?

Difficult question to decide on!

Answer 3

Joyce Meyer Ministries (www.joycemeyer.org) has helpful t.v. and radio programs on how to apply the Bible to everyday life.

I think since both you and your boyfriend are adults, the age difference is not very important. Pray about your relationship and see what God thinks about it. There might be other issues. For example, if you are a Christian, there is no point in dating a non-Christian, because the Bible says we are not to be unequally yoked.

I think that once you're an adult, you can honor your parents without honoring their every preference for how you should run your life.

Follow the Bible and the leading of the Holy Spirit and you'll be fine.

Answer 4

Well, admitting that or atleast being worried is a huge step for you, I can tell.
I would say it's not dishonoring her, because you're a grown woman; but I would say that it is dishonoring all she's tried to teach you and pretty much over-riding all of the respect and honor you gave her as a child.

I do not think age matters tremendously, but I can see your mother's concern about a man who was in HIS twenties when you were born.

Answer 5

It seems to me that honoring your parents means to respect them and listen to their counsel. It does not, however, mean you need to do everything they tell you.

I would like to add that a member of my family married someone much older against the advice of both parents and siblings. The result was terrible for that person. You may just want to sit down with your mother and ask her what, exactly it is about this man that bothers her. The age may be only part of it. That doesn't mean you have to do what she wishes but sometimes parents see things we miss when we are young. Those things usually come from experience we do not have yet.

Answer 6

The important thing to consider is such a situation is that your mother's advice is a caution. She knows you from birth, and has no other motive for advising you than her love for you and the least you can do is try to understand just why she is against the fellow. Try and look objectively at it until you understand where she is coming from and then make your decision. God often gives insight to to others that we don't have ourselves because we are too "close" to the situation to be objective. Very few marriages work out that go against parental advice.

Answer 7

,It may be a good idea for you to talk to your mother calmly and respectfully, ask her why it bothers her so much, she just may tell you something that you don't see, don't forget she has much more experience than you have, and she may see things that you do not, through her experience and through not being in your shoes because she is not in your situation she may see a clearer picture, than you can, because you may be biased by your emotions your vision may not be as clear. By listening to what she has to say you may be able to avoid painful situations that you may get into because of something you may not be seeing right now.Talking to her and listening to what she is feeling will not hurt, especially if you listen to her respectfully. you may even benefit your life I'm sure your mother loves you and this is the reason she is concerned.

Answer 8

to honor someone does not necessarily mean to always accept a different view on particular issues.
Honoring father & mother is a matter of life attitude in general .. finding and judging your personal relationship(s) is very much up to yourself.
You're honoring your mother most by showing her how self-confident and self-aware you've learnt to go your own way ...

Answer 9

The age difference may not matter now...but 20 years from now when you are 45 and he is 68. You may feel different.
Maybe, your mother does'nt want to see you hurt in any way.
After all, she is the one that loves you unconditionally and ,only, has you best interest at heart.

Answer 10

Yes you are dishonoring your mother. Until the day you die your parents are an authority in your life. Romans 13:1 says Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. (Your parents) For thereis no authority except from God,and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Then verse 7 says, Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs are due, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor is due. Don't you think your mom deserves honor and respect, she is the vessel that brought you into this world.