Hi, I'm 18--got a boyfriend-and we had been friends for so long already. The problem -I never see him outside of school-cause I can't leave the house. The parents are still bitter about me dating and going out w/ friends. They want to know who ppl are before I hang out with them--and that I understand-but then my mom doesn't want them coming over to our place.So I don't know what to do--that's the only way they can meet them really.
My dad is cool with the idea, my mom, is unsure on what she wants to decide. Anyone been in this situation?
Well, I just got done talking to my guy, and he seemed upset about me saying that I'm not sure about hanging out tomorrow. He's asked many times, and he's been so patient-I feel annoying to always say no. I've never gotten in any trouble before-if that's the problem. Man, I need some coffee right now heheh. But any advice would help, thank you
2007-04-19 21:39:16 · 7 answers · asked by Moldcookie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, I know they say teens shouldn't date--but what about friends? In college, I'll have even less time to do anything, so isn't now a good time to hang out?
2007-04-19 21:45:19 · update #1
Hi girl, i really understand what you are going through. One thing you also have to understand is that parents are too over protective over their children and especially when its girls. You'll be a mother too and you'll understand what I'm talking about. Sometimes it gets worse to the extend whereby you have to choose between your parents and your boyfriend. One thing that I'm sure of is that your mother loves you and she want what is best for you. I know its not easy but try to talk to her and make her to realize that you are growing up and you can be responsible too. Also explain the whole situation to your boyfriend i think he will understand. Don't let him make you to choose between him and your family, you are still young and you still gonna meet lot of hand-sum guys out there. Give your mother a reason to trust you and you will see she will give you the benefit of the doubt. Your parents will never give you a wrong direction, trust them.
2007-04-19 22:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sam, Here a much needed cup of coffee. Watch out it is hot and strong. That will help you stay up with us for a little bit longer. You are 18 and you should be able to date and hang out with your friends. Your parents are not being fair to you. If you keep saying NO to your guy friend he is going to go somewhere else so he can go out with a gal. You need to have a one on one talk with your parents and tell them you are old enough to start dating and make your who choices. Ask them how old they were when they started dating. I bet a dollar that they dating a lot early than they will let you. If they still say NO maybe moving out would help in this problem. You could get 1 or 2 girls to be roommates and help out in the rent,food and the bills. Decided what you want to do and do it before you lose all your friends and your guy friend. Good Luck Sweetie. Have a save and good life if you can. LOL LOL start haven't some fun in your life.
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-04-20 05:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u r 18 and i think you are old enough to make ur own decisions, but if you r still in the house with ur parents than you already no they're going to have some say so. you really need to have a long talk with your parents manley your mother you no mothers are more protective an they both only want the best for u. but the talk would be a good starter and asure them that they can trust you to do the right thing and it time for you to start going out an dateing see how that goes , let your boyfriend no that you are going to talk with them an hope for the best.
2007-04-20 04:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through with this when I was about 16 years old. Well what I did at the time was actually rebel and go out anyway. If I were you I wouldn't let my parents stop me from going out. do not be abusive and stay out very late the first time you go out, make sure there's a lenient progress in how much you dare. First aim for a few hours and then increase that as their trust in you increases. But YOU have to make the first move, show that you're a responsible adult who can take independence unless they want to listen to you. Don't be scared of what will happen after, if they shout at you for going out, you must take it as a good way to start off the communication. Also, I used to tell myself that I preferred my independence to a scolding, no matter how grave that was.
2007-04-20 04:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Karen Irvine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move into your own place. Tell your parents that you are 18 years old and need some freedom. If your mom will not let go, tell her that you are going to look for a job as soon as school is out, and find some friends to move in with. Also, you could ask your father to talk to her about it.
Where I live, an 18 year old is an adult.
2007-04-20 04:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this too shall pass
keep your head in the books, go on to college - by then you will be outta the house and can do what you want. BUT don't use that as an excuse to f-up - get an education and get ready for the rest of your wonderful life.
If you are trapped in the house - just read a ton - feed your head
2007-04-20 04:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by QnA34 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Prison is hell.
2007-04-20 04:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋