I found myself having a attraction to a female recently that turned into a really strong friendship (despite wanting more). There was a very strong connection, and we would spend a great deal of time talking and sharing very personal thoughts/feelings. I developed strong feelings to her, and then decided to make them known thinking she would feel the same way, but when I did she claimed she was completely "Mentally Fascninated" by me...and was very interested, but not on a romantic level. It seemed that she really loved the connection between us, but not me. She wanted to spend 30+ hours a week talking to me, but yet was interested in another man. My immediate reaction to her statement when I confronted her about it led me to believe that she was superficial. Has anyone ever felt the way she has.....being mentally fascinated and interested in someone, but not being physically? If so- what happened in the end? Did you two ever come together, or did the whole thing fade out in the end?
2007-04-19 21:33:49 · 8 answers · asked by embstj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, she did give me the impression that she was physically attracted to me. I even two nights in her apartment (though nothing happened: Just talked all night) In fact, we flirted alot (in humor however). About 90% of our friendship was non-stop laughter.
I've already trying to move on from it. We're not talking. I just wanted to know if you can actually be "Mentally" attracted to someone, and not "Physically". I never heard of that before. I always though attraction was attraction, so I just wanted to understand what she meant. I was under the impression it seems that she doesn't know what she wants. I just wanted to verify that.
Either way- I'm moving on. You don't know what you have, until it's gone.
2007-04-19 22:09:59 · update #1
I wasn't really attracted to my guy at first, but I'm not shallow, and he's really fun to hang with, and all these years later...
2007-04-19 21:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by ṡ๓υгƒєtt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did she ever give you the impression she was attracted to you physically? she is also interested in someone else you say so she found you as an admirable friend?
Im not sure if any guy has been only mentally fascinated by what I do. (homemaker/mom) I would like that actually. So, Id have to say no Ive never felt that way and never ended up with anyone because of it.
Me being only a friend with someone...Ive not ended up with a friend only. This can happen online friendships where you talk to someone for hours and have no physical attraction and if the other person wants more, well, I guess it can fade, yeah.
2007-04-19 21:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have a few friends who i can talk to freely, without anything romantic coming in between. We have been friends for almost 20 years now and i personally think this kind of friendhipis better than the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship which can evaporate once the feelings are no longer the same. When i need any opinion from my male counterparts, i can always call them up and ask, and not be afraid that they would laugh at me. And their opinions are usually unbiased.
2007-04-19 21:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but simply put--you are wasting your valuable time--no is no and that is that--so move on--she is mentally fascinated??? That is a nice way of avoiding a nasty shut down for you--she is saying what she thinks is a nice way to say --get lost. So get lost and find another woman to work on. 30 hours of talk??? She is playing with you---cruel joke if you know what I mean----hey man, sorry but good luck in the future--and don't think anyone else will say anything different here.
2007-04-19 21:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's mentally attracted to you but not physically attracted to you. It's rare - normally the mismatch comes the other way.
I always try to link up mentally. Physical is just timing.
2007-04-19 21:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's this guy who admittedly has a crush on me and is extremely nice to me. He's not my type but I gave it try.
When I'm not with him, I miss him and think about him every minute, but when I'm around him, I always realize that I don't like him at all. Maybe, I just love the fact that he likes me and that he treats me like his precious but not him.
2007-04-19 21:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by peperoni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman's heart is very tender. she always want shelter of a strong man with whom she can feel safe.....i think mental fascination is more imp than a physical. physical only animals have. i think you should not leave her.
2007-04-19 21:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by RAJAN P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time. They love the candlelight, the drugs, the music, the fast car, the money, and they still think I'm in it for just the sex. Damn.
2007-04-19 21:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋