he's been calling me a wh*re and a b**ch
and lying to everyone that i keep trying to get back with him...which im not.
he's been telling everyone that we broke up in front of everyone with him calling me those names & telling me to leave him alone.
when we broke up we were "adults" about it....we didnt do it that way or anything near like that.
should i confront him?
should i leave it be?
why is he doing this?
the only means of talking to him that i have is e-mails.
suggestions please
2007-04-19 19:22:32 · 25 answers · asked by lady_luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
EX boyfriend people
EX being the key word
and i am 22 while he is 20
2007-04-19 19:28:02 · update #1
Do not confront him.
Yes do leave it be.
Why is he doing this? A better question is: Why do you care?
Be the adult be reeeeaaaaallll nice and everyone will eventually see him as he is.
BTW I am a guy....
2007-04-19 19:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being immature. He is trying to feed his huge ego. Just email him and tell him that you do not appreciate what he is doing. Tell him that there was a time when you shared a love for each other. As him why he has to destroy all of the good memories that you made together by speaking badly about you. Tell him that it makes him look ridiculous for even dating you, if you were a wh**e and a b***h. Tell him that he is not only hurting you, but making himself look like a fool for every going out with you. Ask him if he would just try to adult about the break up. Tell him that you thought that he was more mature than that. Ask him how would he feel if you talked about him the way he is talking about you.
If that doesn't work, email him back and tell him that the next time you hear something bad he said about you, you are going to tell everyone that he was a lousy lover, and slobbered when he kissed!! Then drop it, because he is an airhead that needs to grow up.
2007-04-20 02:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you think if you confront him, especially only through email, he will stop? i think he won't
yeah i know how you feel. you really want to bash his small neanderthal brain into his a**. but that would further encourage him to continue his agenda towards you. his reasoning would be that you are guilty because you reacted to what he is saying.
he is trying to tell everyone that he's the good guy. that he left you because you are a Ho.
ok so they're not true. what do you do? continue with your life. will it lessen your value as a woman if he continues saying those things? no. as long as the people around you can see that you are the complete opposite of what he says, they won't believe him. eventually, they will realize his agenda and will see that he's just trying to bug you. the greatest ego buster for a man is to find out that his ex can continue with her life, and be better off, without him
it is always 'The Truth Shall Prevail' in the end.
2007-04-20 03:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule Number one. Never let it bother you.
Rule Number two. Don't retaliate.
Rule Number three. When someone tells you that he said this or that, Smile and say, "Did that childish moron say that?? I can't believe anyone would be so stupid!"
Rule Number four. find a guy, any guy will do, to hang out with when ever you are where you might run into him, and don't under any circumstances notice him when you see he is there. Keep your attention focused on the guy you are friends with.
His tirades will grow tiresome and obviously not true quick enough.
2007-04-20 02:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there's not much you can do. He sounds pretty immature if he is spreading lies about you. Everything will die down soon enough and people will move on to the next rumor or piece of gossip. I have learned to really downplay those type of situations, and your true friends and people who care about you won't believe that nonsense.
If people are telling you his lies, politely say to them the rumors are untrue, and in the future you'd prefer not hear any of his nasty comments. People will tell you they think it's their responsibility to let you know. But it doesn't serve any real purpose other than to hurt your feelings. You cannot control the things he says, or what others believe.
Good luck
2007-04-20 02:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by jblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is doing this because he is regreting why he broke up with u may be he thinks by doing so he will make people belive u are still with him and will get u back which is not likely...if u will act upset and disturbed ppl might think there is somethign goiong on so just leave it a side don't be bothered and ppl who know u won't be bothered abt wtever he says about u so be happy enjoy ur life and he will eventually learn his lesson u should not care about him...all the best
2007-04-20 02:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by glister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real stooge. It sounds like he's probably upset that you guys split up & is trying to save face, & I'm guessing you broke it off. Contact him & explain in no uncertain terms you were over a long time ago & tell him to grow up & forget his immature actions. If has any shred of moral fibre he might just get the picture.
2007-04-20 02:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~HEAD OF HIPPIE CAMP~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that you ex is upset about the break up and is trying to hurt you with these nasty names and lies. i think the best thing is to just leave it alone. if you confront him you give him what he wants and he will just keep doing it. if people ask you about it tell them the truth, but stay clam so they know you are telling them the true story. if they ask you about him, take the high road and say nothing mean, that way he will look like a lying ***.
2007-04-20 02:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by fortheloveoforange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm i recall that from previous experience .my gf's ex was/is/continues to be a real asshole,the only solution is to tell him F* OFF and tell him that by doing what he is doing,he is only showing you that he craves you back,just dont answer his calls,mails and if he keeps harrassing,tell the authorities.That will slap him with a warrant where more harrassing will result in a hefty fine,and if there is more of it,you land him in jail,it's not nice that someone speaks wrongfully of you,or else if you reallly want to be mean,while in public slap the s* out of him,that will embarass him GREATLY and show that you're the boss,not your dumbassdimwittgoodfornothing ex
2007-04-20 02:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ghostrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* Oki , this is what you should do
1 - Tell him to stop , or you will go to the police and tell him to tell everyone that what he said is not true .
2 - Go to the police , he will be warned for saying such things it is illegal , that will scare hyim and hopefully he will stop , if not go to the police again
3 - If all else fails do what he does .
G O O D L U C K *
2007-04-20 02:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋