whats too much?

Question

whats too big of an age difference, when dating ?

Answer 1

To answer your question: I think the age difference only matters to those who are very aware of their being a disconnect. If it's a short term thing, it doesn't matter. On the other hand, if u are looking to have kids with a woman who feels that she is past her economical window or biological ability, then it is best to look elsewhere. I've dated girls my age that actually make me feel kinda like a cradle robber must feel, cuz i found them attractive, but their conversations were so petty and trivial that i found their personalities to be quite immature. Then again i dated a model who was three years younger then me when i was 23 and i'd always ask her to get some Gin for me when she was going to the store b/c i forgot she wasn't old enough to buy alcohol; just because i thought of her as my own age.

Then there was a woman who i started seeing when i was 17 who was 12 yrs older then me . It's funny, because despite the difference in our 'ages' I always thought of her as being younger then me. She was seperated from her husband, although they still lived in the same house b/c she couldn't afford to move out, as his large income and savings allowed him to pay the rent, while she took low-wage part time jobs. I have a lot of resect for him because he was always nice to me, even though he knew I was 'with' his wife. Since she lived with him, I insisted that we not isolate her ex husband from their son when we did anything, and since I wasn't the son's father, I spent a lot of our time together at their house b/c I couldn't accept seperating her son from his mother when his dad and mom had already been in conflict. Out of respect, I kept everything platonic when at their house, since I didn't want to exacerate any of the domestic tension. Ironically, I was the one who defended her ex when my gf would start arguments with him over the most trivial matters. Ironically I was the one who came to his defense when she really verbally slandered him, which never provoked any sort of angry reaction from him. She also became enraged when I 'betrayed her' by not supporting her tirades because they were unmerited and motivated by her own anger and emotional instability then anything else. I remember when I first started seeing her (about 3 months into her seperation from her husband) when she called me on the phone, crying about how hard it was for her to talk to 'him' (her ex). Although the relationship between her and I was stellar, it seemed to peak after 6 months and then after 10 monthsit was over. She started treating me almost exactly like her ex-husband. It just suddenly fizzled out and I didn't see her in the same light as I did when we first started dating. I was her troubador, her prince, saving her from the dungeon in which she had been cast. After I was able to observe the how much her perception of 'reality' deviated from real life, I started to wonder if she had only wanted to use our me as a fool to get her ex husband jealous or angry enough to file for a divorce. The sex was awesome, and since she was on birth control i didn't have to worry about condoms. The toughest thing to do is fall in love with someone knowing ur relationship won't last... it's worse then any drug (except maybe alcohol or xanax, cuz of the shakes and the seizures) and trust me they've all been easy compared to breaking it with the woman i thought i loved. In the end they all lie, but when u fall in love with not only the woman but her kid u feel like u lose ur family, so i hope that u aren't the naive 18 year old that i was 6 years ago, b/c i enough tears to bring the Dead Sea back to life. lol, at least the emotion made me a good song writer. i went from singing 'songs of innocence' to 'songs of experience' which are poems written by Brit Lit poet william blake - if u get my drift. I wouldn't take it back for a moment b/c i learned a lot from what i experienced and that made me even wiser then i already was :), but it tainted every promise, and made me very angry, and distrustful of people even more then i already had been. It is all that anger that motivates me to pour all of my emotions into all the constructive things i do now everyday and luckily it never gets displaced against anyone. lol.

Answer 2

It really varies, generally I think the man should be the oldest one in the relationship. Over 10 years is fine, my parents have a 12 year difference, my aunt married a guy 18 years older, and they're fine. There are many things that should be factored in. The biggest age difference in my relationships was 12 years, it wasn't that bad.

Answer 3

i think it really depends on the age of the 2 people dating.....if u r 18 years old and your dating a 30 year old...male or female....i think its wrong, but say if your 25 dating a 35 its fine...its all about maturity level and the law....i personally have a rule that they must be closer to my age then my parents....i couldnt imagine dating someone my parents age...but i think 10 years is good, i dont think i would go much more than that.

Answer 4

Depends on the age of the two people involved. Younger people should stay within 5 years of their age, or they will find themselves bored by an older person that has already experienced most of the excitement in life. They are usually so ready to settle down that you can't get them off the sofa to come to the dinner table.

Answer 5

I believe that love knows no age limit.
If you're 18 and you fall in love with a 60 year old, then you've just fallin' in love with a man or woman who could have been your parent.
It's harder to have a relationship with someone who is older than you, but it isn't impossible!
Make sure that if you're the younger one that you know what the older one wants from the relationship.
If you're the older one, then make sure that the younger one is 18+ and that they're not too immature to date!
Good Luck!

Answer 6

I think more than ten years, and if one or the other's still a teenager. I was 19 and I dated a guy that was 11 years older than me, and it wasn't a very good relationship. He wanted a housekeeper not a girlfriend.

Answer 7

50 years

Answer 8

This can be a tricky one, & people will always be divided on it. True love has the power to bridge any age gap. But when dating, it's up to you! Whatever you feel comfortable with yourself.

Answer 9

It's different for everybody and NO ONE can tell you what is right or wrong (as long as both parties are of legal age)

Answer 10

depending on how old you are and hold the other person is.. like 13 and 18 wrong.. but 20 and 25 not wrong.. get it?