I hear people saying God wants them to be happy so it must be alright i dont agree ; just wondering how others feel about this.
2007-04-19 19:10:22 · 26 answers · asked by jasminebudd 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
One cannot solve a problem that is in a relationship by creating something outside of that relationship. It's not logical and it's not possible. It simply messes up a family by doing that. If someone doesn't feel the love in a relationship, then you do one of two things--end the relationship or get help to try to save it and then choose if it's able to be saved or end it if it's not. God may want us to be happy; however, I can claim that committing murders makes me happy -- it doesn't mean that it's right. I do think it's a sin. It's wrong no matter if you are a Christian or not. Religion shouldn't be the only thing that stops someone from doing something that is wrong.
2007-04-19 19:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you are referring to extra marital affairs then it is most definitely a sin, commonly known as ADULTERY. You will never be happy if you cheat on your wife/husband. Guilt will kill you. It is morally wrong and you do not have to be told this really - deep down you know the truth. WEre you never happy ever in the relationship? You must have got married for some reason and I hope it includes love. You both may be going through a rough patch but that doesn't mean you go off and find yourself some temporary bout of happiness - it makes things worse NOT better.
God wants you to love, God wants you to find truth in your existence and his. God wants you to be faithful and strong in your belief. Happiness is a choice - you make the choices in your own life that will lead you to happiness. Cheating is a bad choice for a path of happiness and you know it - there is no need to contemplate this. It's morally wrong - no matter what people say or whatever they come up with to condone it. It is more acceptable in life now but that that does not make it right. That's why divorce rates are so high nowadays. That's now quite acceptable when once upon a time it was taboo. I do believe in divorce especially when a relationship becomes abusive but divorcing nowadays is for the pettiest reasons. People are morally weak and have lost faith in belief and in God. It is a real shame. Forget revelations and the ending of the world. We are creating our own destruction passing our own judgements and playing God.
I do believe ultimately in the end our soul will develop and we will find truth whether in this life or the next. It is our ultimate goal even if youa re not aware of it yet. Everyone wants to be closer to God. Anyway I hope all this helps and you get a better perspective on things and work at your relationship.
2007-04-20 02:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by I want to help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basing a marriage on one's feelings is like basing it on the weather. Those who follow only the feelings of "being in love" don't know how to maintain a lasting love relationship.
Marriage is about commitment to the other person's best welfare regardless of changeable emotions. Statistics show that most people who are having a rotten time temporarily will be happier if they stick it out. But ultimately, it depends on if your god is your happiness or if your God is Jesus.
There are a lot of Christian resources for troubled marriages, if that person is interested in making the effort. If they don't value what God values, they'll have to learn the hard way that serving self leads to spiritual slavery.
A couple websites for Christian couples are: www.marriagetoday.org and www.loveandrespect.com.
2007-04-20 02:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about sin... its just plain wrong, Christian or not. Do NOT cheat. No way, no how, for no reason. DO NOT CHEAT. Its not worth the pain that it WILL cause everyone involved in the end. Not to mention the possibility of STD's, the emotional attachment, etc.
Either fix your relationship, or leave. You'll be doing everyone a favor, and giving everyone respect, including yourself.
2007-04-20 02:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is God's arrangement and it will never be perfect until humans are perfect. However, you chose this person and vowed to remain faithful. In God's eyes you are joined together as one. Unless and until the other person dies or is unfaithful, you are both obligated to keep that vow. No one will be truly happy until Jesus turns his attention to cleaning up the earth of all wickedness. Then, the REAL LIFE will begin. Do the best you can. Read your Bible daily and pray for God's holy spirit to help you understand.
2007-04-20 02:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!! Even God said that "If your spouse wants a decree of divorce than give it to them".
The only one true sin in existence is that if you are called upon by the Holy Spirit to speak through you - that is an unforgiven sin if one tells the Holy Spirit no. All other sins are forgiven if asked to be forgiven.
2007-04-20 02:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it a sin...hmm....let me think about this one.....YES!!!
Adultery is defined in the Bible as any kind of sex that is not with your married spouse. Sex with self (to include sexual fantasies played out in your head, see where Jesus said, if you even look at another woman with lust in your heart...) falls outside of that guideline. Therefore it is adultery.
The law is here to point out to us that we are incapable of doing it on our own. Everyone has sinned, everyone has made mistakes, and no one is good enough to get into Heaven by your own deeds. That's why we needed Jesus to take the punishment for us, so that we might be reconciled to God in Heaven.
2007-04-20 02:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even though divorce and adultery are sociable acceptable now doesn't mean that the ten commandments no longer apply. You are only allowed to leave your wife if she cheats on you. If you cheat on her, then it is a sin. If you divorce her while she is being faithful it is a sin.
2007-04-20 02:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is a sin as well. The one called adultery. I don't think it says Thou shall not commit adultery unless.....
I assume you mean relationships outside of a marriage that are romantic or sexual in nature.
2007-04-20 02:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by blooming chamomile 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is a sin to seek your satisfactions outside of your marriage. it is called adultery. The bible warns us not to trust " feelings" which are transitory and untrustworthy.. Rather we are called to do that which is right and turn away from that which leads to evil. Crack and heroin make you " feel good" too but are traps for the unwary.
2007-04-20 02:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋