One of my friends husband has been abusing her physically mentally and emotionally every day for four years. Last time he smothered her as a result of which she suffered severe PTSD, from which she recovered. Now he says he has changed. Should she stay in this relationship?
2007-04-19 18:42:14 · 12 answers · asked by angelina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Of course not, she should of left the first time that he raised his hand to her. I know this sounds harsh, but some women stay because they like to be treated that way. They feel that as long as the guy is hitting them, then he must love them. That is so not true. He is not in love with her, he is in love with the control over her. If you love someone you couldn't hurt a single hair on their head. But she has to come to this realization on her own. I hope she wakes up before he kills her.
2007-04-19 19:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tim F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was she diagnosed with PTSD?
.......and deemed recovered by a medical professional?
She needs to seek both physical and mental diagnosis from a professional before she makes any life altering decisions.
2007-04-20 01:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course ppl are going to say no...
but sometimes ppl have problems and they will do anything they can to stop hurting ppl.
is he seeing a councellor? if not he should b b4 she even decides to do anything about the relationship...and he has to keep going until the councellor says so.-he has to want to be helped she can't do it for him...she can be there but she can't do it for him...
*it really depends if she still loves him or not and thinks she can forgive him for the things he did to her......
-she shouldn't jump straight back in the relationship...they should play it slow...go on dates, no living together...she needs to let him know that she will definately not put up with the abuse ever again...
good luck...
p.s. just tell her to leave as soon as anything happens, him threatening her or anything like that.
2007-04-20 03:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years??? Is there something wrong with her??? Normal people do NOT stay in hurtful situations--in fact she should have had him arrested. Some stay because of a twisted sense of what a relationship is or they enjoy it more than anyone will ever know. She can go but it is her choice---mind your business.--thanks for caring.
2007-04-20 02:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend doesn't have children , kick him off right now.
in case of children , have marriage councelling and try to save marriage for the sake of children
but this guy should be clear in the compromise that any further abuse and he is behind the bars..these days laws are very strong in favor of women
2007-04-20 01:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no one should be abused in any way and unless he got professional help, chances are he hasn't changed. It could get out of hand and he could really hurt her or possibly kill her without meaning to. She needs to run.
2007-04-20 01:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her husband's behaviour needs medical help. Only she can decide for herself if the marriage is worth salvaging. If she chooses to remain in the marriage, her husband must go for counselling otherwise, history will repeat itself. If he refuses to seek any help, leave him.
2007-04-20 01:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he has changed, next time he'll finish the job.
2007-04-20 02:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, one cannot change another.....that is from childhood. Leave him before she has kids and if she already has kids, leave him before he starts hitting them and a killin occurs.
2007-04-20 01:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way she find someone eles
2007-04-20 07:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by mandy 29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋