Question for pregnant adolescents & teen moms ONLY please.....................................................

Question

How do you really feel about your pregnancy or about being a mom at such an early stage in your young life?

Are you truly happy & satisfied?

If you could turn the clock back, would you do it all over again?

Are other folks treating you with the respect that you deserve & expect as a human being and leaving you pretty much alone for the most part or are they relentlessly making rude & unwelcome comments and giving you disapproving glances, dirty looks & evil stares everywhere you go?




Angel is curious.

She wants to know and is going straight to the source to obtain her information.







TO PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT EVEN PREGNANT OR TEEN MOMS, PLEASE RESTRAIN YOURSELVES FROM RESPONDING!

Thank you.

Oh wait!!!

I totally forgot to ask you girls how terribly excited you are or were at the prospect of becoming a parent at long last!

Or are you sadly dreading it?

How does it really feel to be pregnant and to have a baby to look after for many years to come?

I have never been blessed with a child so I am literally dying to know, you see?




Please tell Angel.

She is very inquisitive & nosy, as you probably have already noticed, lol!

Too much at times and gets into real trouble for it so please forgive her!




Thanks again to every teen mom out there for taking the time & making the effort to reply to those numerous questions!

Answer 1

I'm 4 months pregnant at 18, soon to be 19. I just found out yesterday that it's a boy!

I wasn't planning on becoming pregnant, of course, and I was on birth control iplls and taking them properly every day. So I feel like I was meant to have this baby, since he was conceived on that slight 1% chance of becoming pregnant on birth control, so I wouldn't change anything.

I have a very supportive boyfriend whom I've been with for over 2 years...1 year of which we've been living together. I can't say that we're READY for kids, but how can you truly be ready for something that will change your life so completely, no matter your age?

I'm excited, and I'm happy, but I'll be honest...I'm scared too...and a little disappointed in myself. however, I see ALL life as a blessing, and I know that I have a lot to give this baby in life, and I intend to give him EVERYTHING I possibly can. Wish it could have happened 5 or so years later, but then I don't suppose he'd be the same little person he's growing into right now. He's kicking me as I type, and I love him already!

Some people do treat me badly because I am young and pregnant. Just today, my cashier lady in a store told me that there was an easy way to prevent pregnancy...birth control. I just smiled and told her thank you, but that I WAS on birth control...not that it was any of her business...and that I considered my baby a blessing, either way. She then said that if birth control didn't work for me then I should just not have sex. Well, no crap. I know where babies come from, but how was I supposed to know birth control didn't work for me BEFORE getting pregnant??? Besides, I'm DEALING with the consequences. I'm having the baby, I'm saving money so he'll have everything he needs, and I'm taking good care of myself and my relationship so baby will be healthy and have a loving home. I just laughed at her, without saying any of this, and she then informed me that she'd gone 2 years without having sex and so could I. Wow. Too much information. once again, I laughed. I told her once again, I was excited about the my baby. She just wouldn't quit...said I just didn't know what I was in for and that after I had this baby I should never have sex again. I took my change and left.

But then other people come touch my belly and tell me I'm lucky, that they wished they could have babies of their own...and that makes me kind of sad for these people.

All in all, I'm excited about my baby boy, and I will do whatever I have to in order to nurture him, mind body and soul. My family and boyfriend support me, and baby and I are in good health. And that's all I can ask for. My life will change drastically, but it was a risk I knew I was taking when I first started having sex.

Answer 2

How/ why did you decide to keep the baby? There was no way I could possibly abort my baby or give him up. I grew an attachment to him even though I knew his dad was not going to be around. I have always wanted to be a young mom, just didnt imagine it this young. What was it like telling your parents/guardians? My dad I could of cared less. I dont believe I told him I think my brothers did. (He was a dead beat himself) My mom on the other hand was hard to tell. I started crying and she did and didnt talk to anyone for 3 wks. She wanted better for me. How old were you when you had your child? 18 3 wks before I turned 19. Do you work? Did you finish high school? Go on to college? Yes I work at Marshalls on the wknds and babysit during the wk. I finished HS before I got pregnant. And I've been in college full-time since I've had him. I'm taking a break this summer though. What support did you get from friends/family? My friends and family where very supportive. Some of them look down on me cuz the dad but I'm happy w/o the dad. How old are you and your child now? Do you have other children as well? Im 20 now my son will be 1 1/2 next month. And not as of right now.

Answer 3

I am 18 with a 23 month old son and a daughter on the way. I would never want to turn back time because they are the best thing that ever happened to me. Most people I meet respect me and all but a lot of people ask the same question and a few people have gave me dirty looks like if I am a whore. I don't care what anyone thinks about it where would I be without my angels out a party drunk and being stupid. The only thing I regret is not finishing school with my class. I couldn't be happier. I knew I could have gotten on birth control but I really wanted to be a mom young because you get to have a closer relationship with your kids and have more time for them than say someone is 30 years old.

Answer 4

I am 29 years old. I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17. He is my joy. My boyfriend and I had another baby when I was 20. Drew is now 11 and Hannah is 9. I would never change when I had my children. My boyfriend and I did not stay together after I had our daughter. He is now in prison and not a part of their lives. I tell you this because even though I wouldn't change anything, it was very difficult to be a teen mother. I eventually met a great man, got married and now we also have an 18 month old son. I am very happy and satisfied. Frankly, my life was headed in the wrong direction before I got pregnant at 16. Most people would say that getting pregnant that young is a huge mistake. However, for me, when I got pregnant I realized I had to pull my life together. I went back to school and had a very succesful job. I now stay at home with my children, one of the benefits of having a husband who supports all of us. I just want Angel to know it is difficult, but being a mother is the most rewarding thing in my life. And yes, people do and will judge you. It happened to me all the time. I just made myself a better mom. I volunteered (still do) at my childrens schools, and in college once I even did a speech on teen mothers. No one knew I had a child and I brought him to class to dispell the predjudices people have against teen moms. This was in a college honors speech class. I think I changed some peoples minds that day, but unfortunately judgemental people are all around us. Angel, focus on you and your baby. Make the best life you can for both of you. A baby will not stand inyour way, he or she will be the motivation to do anything you want.

Good Luck, God bless, and YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 5

My son changed my life. I am no longer a teen, but I had my son when I was barely 18. I don't know if I would change it or not. There are a lot of things that I refrained from doing because of him, but there are also things that I didn't get to do because of him. I am truely grateful for him in my life. What I tell the teen girls that I talk to is, Make sure that there isn't anything else that you want to do with your life that you can't include a child. Do not consider that there is daycare or parents taking care of your child for you. Play time as you know it is over, but there is a whole new playtime that is out there.

Answer 6

Well im 18 but got pregnant at 17. To be honest in glade i got pregnant. I had previously gotten rid of a baby i didn't want(with my current partner) we were depressed because i did it with out his permission, but i wasn't ready. But things do change. We have a place we rent cheap, he has a successful career ahead of him as a mechanic. He's always wanted to have kids early. Personly i wanted to wait till in my mid 20s, but things change. I'm happy to have my baby on the way, it makes him so happy when he holds her. We cant wait to start to feel her moving. And ive already had 5 years experience with just about raising my siblings. Legit! Everyday after school, all weekends, all holidays, no time with my friends. Not by choice but under the circumstances its help me get ready to what is now happening to us. I know that im ready because ive had more experience then most teens with children. My life seems to but put in place to set up a peaceful life for our child. Unlike most teen mums.

Answer 7

I had my first child as a teen. People have thier opinions and thank God they are only opinions. If I could go back---I would change the fact that I took to heart EVERYTHING people said. THings like---Babies are hard so get ready....and Your life is over....... My life was FAR from over. This is the best mist fulfilling thing I have ever done. My daughters look up to me and depend on me because in their eyes I know everything and can fix anything. I love to feel thier little arms around my neck and hear them say--I love you mommy or as my baby says....I wub ooo mamma. Don't worry about other people. Enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy that baby. Your the mommy. They need to get a life. If you get ugly comments just reply----Well good thing YOUR not pregnant huh? As far as the ugly looks and evil stares-----just rub your little pregnant belly and smile as big as you can. Good Luck and keep your head up. Your doing a job that alot of people are terrified to even think about doing!

Answer 8

well i had my daughter very young i was married at 16 very young it was cool i loved it until my husband died 4 years latter of a bad heart ////its now ok she is all i have now