Here goes another question about how to cope with a cheater...?

Question

So I have posted here a few times about suspectiing my boyfriend to be cheating on me and guess what? I was right. He took out a girl on a date to the movies and had sex with her in his car after. He admitted he wanted play and said she looked like an easy hoe. Funny part is all her friends got a hold of her number and called me telling me what happened. Of course I broke up with the useless, dirty, lying fat cheater. It's been a week and I've been pretty bipolar trying to cope. There are days when I am in his arms and days when I ignore him to the point of him getting mad and sometimes crying. Ladies and gentlemen, I am not asking for sympathy, I'm asking for help. This was my first love, my first relationship, and my first break up. He threw away a year and a half away on his back seat. I just want some advice because I don't know what to do or how to deal. This is all new to me. Thanks.

Oh, he is begging for me back and trying all he can but I've been resisting. I just can't trust him anymore. This wasn't a mistake or a one time thing- this happened over days that started from a little flirting. Mind you, she STILL texts him saying she wants sex but hes been ignoring her and all her friends.

Answer 1

Frist thing is to except your fault in this, YOU PICK HIM! You have to understand why you made that mistake and then forgive yourself. Next is to figure out why he f'd it up, that way you can forgive him. All the time letting it burn!!! You have to feel horriable before your going to feel better about this. After that its time to understand the lessons you've learned. Don't just blame him ether thats not constructive. Understand that you made a relationship based soling on the fact you guys love each other, I know romantic, but not realistic. There has to be passion and compassion, friendship and just plain companionship. Your relatship shows a complete lack of compassion and frienship, I'm pretty sure their was passion and some companionship but thats not enough to make a relationship last, don't sell these things short. Because with out the friendship you guys were just two strangers fing each other because you thought it was love. No, bs, love is deeper then just words and a few actions can express. This guy doesn't understand that and in a small way neither do you. Healthy people will break relationships off before that get to this point, but it was your frist love and no brow beating you for your frist mistake, but the next time your not going to be so innocent. Just never let your relationship degrade to a point were your just two individuals tolerating each other for the sake of love, relationship most continue to grow or stagnat and be destoried by the forming of new ones. Just like you experienced. Sad part is when he descided to form a new relationship the truth of him came out, he is just after a lay.... he sacrficed all his love for you to show you that.... which would mean he sacrificed alot more on his way their.... don't settle for less next time, just because of love