Any tips on how to be confident while talking to people?

Question

I can't keep conversations going. Especially if the other person is shy and we both don't know what to say.(I am very shy too) Please can you help me not to be so nervous when it comes to talking to people? I am too afraid they won't like me or they'll think I'm stupid.

Answer 1

I used to be afraid that others were scrutinizing me, and I was very shy. However my mom always says that most people aren't analyzing you as closely as you do yourself. I realized that my fear to speak to others actually caused other people to preceive me as snobby or standoffish. I think you should smile, take a chance, and just let your personality shine through.

Answer 2

Try to worry less about what they'll think of you. Chances are your first impression won't actually be the one that sticks, if, by chance, you get to know them better. Stick to easy questions in a conversation. School, jobs, careers, pets, families, little anecdotes, sports. If you're still in school, favorite subjects. Movies, music, etc. Let the other person do most of the talking, and try to get them started talking about themselves. People love to talk about themselves, and once you find their intrests, you'll be surprised how easy the conversation flows. You can just sit back and look interested. And don't worry abour being confident. Not a lot of people are when meeting new people. If you just get them talking, it'll also keep their mind off of you and they'll come away thinking you're the most brilliant conversationalist ever. Good Luck!

Answer 3

In order to have confidence to talk to other people, first you should have confidence in yourself. Don't think that they won't like your or think that you are stupid, it will just drive away your confidence. Expose yourself to a lot of people more often because self confidence will not just be there it takes time to build it up especially if you have low self esteem. Don't be shy, think that all of the conversations are interesting because by then more and more ideas come out and you get to be confident through and through.

Answer 4

You need to work on your self confident just be know that you are as smart as the next person never think that you can't hole a conversation with the smarts person in the world.

Answer 5

i know exactly what you mean cuz i have the exact same problem!!! i often end up making some lame comment about the weather, or something equally boring. i usually try to find something that we have in common, like if the person is a reader, i'll talk about a book. i have it a little easier now that i have a 1 year old son, he always gives me something to talk about. hang in there, you're not alone! i will definitly be checking back to read other people's answers!

Answer 6

I always had that problem growing.

Just remember that 99% of everyone else feels the same way. What you have say is just as important as anyone else.

Jump in with both feet and go for it.

Answer 7

take more oxygen. when feeling nervous, push hard with the toes of your feet (no one can see it because it's inside your shoes) to release pressure.

everytime the conversation stops say "so what else to talk about today..." . everytime you face a embarassing moment turn it to a joke.

Answer 8

well just relax, if they are shy then they feel just as awkward and if it gets to the point where you need to say "boy this is awkward" then do it. it always livens things up.

but talk about something you are interested in and chances are they will be interested/semi-interested in it too.

Answer 9

Eye contact is important, if u can get him/her to focus on you thats the first step of being confident!

Answer 10

Have confidence, and LOOK UP TO THE WORLD IN IT'S FACE