My girlfriend and I had been going out for almost two years, which is kind of long when I'm 18 and she's 16. I broke up with her four weeks ago and things aren't getting any better. She's still crying and asking me to take her back. I don't know what to do. So if you have a suggestion as to what I should do I would really appreciate it.
2007-04-19 16:10:51 · 7 answers · asked by Drew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend is young and eventually she will get over it (unless she has some serious emotional issues). It may not feel that way to her now but it will happen. The best thing you can do is stand your ground. Don't allow the guilt to get to you to the point that your giving in and right back in a relationship with her. That would be unfair to both you and her. Also, I think it would be best to force some distance between the two of you. The less she sees and hears from you the better she will be able to get over you.
2007-04-19 16:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember both your ages here. When I was 16 and broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years I felt like my world came crashing down. What you and her need is a clean break. Still talking to each other is not helping either of you. I suggest not talking or seeing each other until the time is right and that definitely not now. I'm 26 so I kinda know what I'm talking about!!!!
2007-04-19 16:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by charmas26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 2 years is a long time relationship wise (at your age). Just give her more time to move on, 4 weeks of breakup after 2 years isnt the longest.
Biggest mistake you can do is be too nice to her, dont be an asshole to her, but definately dont be too nice. Otherwise she wont get over you for alot longer.
2007-04-19 16:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by timberwolf_183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is let her be. I bet you're her first love so its going on be hard on her, just stick to it and dont get back together with her because you feel for her. Give her time to get over you and its probably better if you keep your distance also, so she wont get the idea that yall still have a chance.
2007-04-19 16:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage her to remember all the good times but understand you might not be able to be her friend through this time as much as you would like to help her through it. That doesn't mean avoiding her like the plague, but it might mean cutting back on time spent with her and treating her like an ex you care about more than a friend until she's ready. Encourage her to realize she was a special part of your life and that doesn't change. Don't take her back out of guilt though nor overly immerse yourself in it. She needs to heal, and she will.
2007-04-19 16:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Celeste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll move on eventually. It might seem a little cruel, but your being seen with a present romantic interest might help her understand that it is over. Break ups are NEVER easy, but she will learn to move on eventually.
2007-04-19 16:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your ex, why are you talking to her? Do you hate her, because that is the result of what you are doing. You are continuing her pain by talking to her.
Stop talking to her, stop reading her text messages, stop taking her phone calls, stop seeing her. Tell her: "I don't like you anymore and never will, stop stalking me".
If she doesn't stop, tell her parents. If that doesn't stop it call the cops. If that doesn't' stop it contact the courts.
2007-04-19 16:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋