ok my and my bf are ready to have sex but there is only one prob...... my parents are prudes and they dont believe in sex before marrige. but we are ready now.... how can i get this around my parents without lieing?...... white lies are ok but ya. help me please! I AM WILLING TO DO ALMOST ANYTHING FOR YOUR HELP! and i am not a ho so ya im still a virgin!!!!!!!!! thank you ahead of time!
2007-04-19 14:11:55 · 22 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I will tell you something about my life. My mom wants me to live the way she wants me to live which would be the life she wish she would have lived. We don't get along and now we are not talking.
It is your life, I don't know how old you are but.... It is your life and you should live YOUR life the way YOU want and be happy, not the way they want you to and be unhappy, like me, LOL.
2007-04-19 14:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Garrison 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is something everyone faces at one point or another. This has nothing to do with what your parents think! Don't tell your parents anything! Make sure to use birth control! And yes, you might have to ...stretch the truth a little if you want to hide the fact from your strict parents that you're no longer a virgin. I don't know how old you are, and I guess it doesn't matter. But if you tell your parents, they'll probably do everything in their power to stop you from seeing your boyfriend ever again! Do not tell them ANYTHING. Just make sure you are using birth control, and go with your feelings. I hope you have a wonderful first experience!
2007-04-19 21:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain a virgin. Think about this. At the age you are now, youwill probably not marry this young man even though he is really nice and kind to you. Do you really want to have sex with different guys before you get married. There may be 30 young men you spend time with before you marry. Will you be intimate with each one? If not all, then how many. I commend you for remaining a virgin. It is a good thing to not to have to worry about venereal diseases, pregnancy, and who else may be sleeping with other than you. This way there are no regrets. I know it feels like you are ready, but if you have to lie to your parents about it, is it really worth it? If you catch a VD or get pregnant, they will be the ones you will have to depend on. You do not want to risk their trust for something that might not last very long.
2007-04-19 21:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by OTOTW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what it is your parents hold true as faith should not bind or obligate you in anyway. if your ready to be penetrated, then it is your choice and your body that is living the experience, not their's. if they are prudes and if you love them, then be revolutionary and take them out of the box of their thinking and introduce them to a new kind of life. as long as you are not a ho, then i think you will make them happy for your innovative skills down the road. remember when you tell one lie that you have to support it with another one until you forget the first lie you told and then your truth will always be based on falsehood. so tell the damn truth and get crackin with your bf. say hello to the world of lovemakin!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-19 21:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by triple o.g. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that ready and you are sure that you are ready... then i would suggest that you two go out one night together to a special place cuz your first time does need to be speical...for both of you...its a big thing to lose your viginity...sex before marriage isnt a bad thing if it is what you want to do, if you both care about each other go for it... it could possible bring you two closer together...but make sure its special..thats the biggest thing cuz if not you will regret it in the end..
2007-04-19 21:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jack D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not feel the same about it afterwards especially if you become pregnant!.....you will have a whole new set of problems.......I'd think long and hard about it before jumping into something you may not be able to handle..........I'm a parent that had a daughter that went thru this so I know what I'm talking about.
2007-04-19 21:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Vergie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want it now?? Think a million times..
Having said that, if you really want to experience sex, go for it, but be prepared for consequences like bleeding, STD, pain, getting pregnant, parents eventually coming to know about it and your partner bragging to the entire city that he had sex with you...
2007-04-19 21:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... you can either sit them down and try to discuss it with them, but I guarantee they will probably not see your side. They were teenagers too once!
Or else you can decide that you're mature enough to make your own decisions without their input and basically without their knowing. But no one here can tell you if it's the right thing to do or not. Make sure if that's a step you want to take that you're informed about pregnancy, STDs, etc. and that you're safe about it.
2007-04-19 21:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You haven't said anything to give evidence you're all that mature, so I can't assume you are actually ready to deal with pregnancy and STDs....you know, the things that can occur when you have sex.
2007-04-19 21:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although now its very common to have sex before marriage. But still I feel that its better to do it after your marriage.
Leave that very precious moment on your wedding night. But its still up to your choice whether u wan to do it anot. As for your parents side, you should tell them the truth and nicely.
Hope it helps!
2007-04-19 21:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you both.. just make sure you use protection and if your parents ask just tell them.. they will get over it.. you can buy condoms at the local supermarket so its not like they can really stop you.. if you feel ready then its not really their business
2007-04-19 21:16:12 · answer #11 · answered by kishb_21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋