My brother is defently going out of his mind. he pushes, he yells and screams, he runs off. see, our father died and our mum is on the verge of dying. my brother won't accept it. me, my 13 year old sister, my 16 year old sister and my 17 year old brother tried to talk to him. he won't stop behaving this way. everytime we try to talk to him, he runs off. he refuses to talk to anyone unless he gets emails on the computer, but besides that, he refuses to talk to anyone. he won't listen to us. it seems like he's pushing us away. he made my 7 year old brother and my 5 year old sister cry. he's insane. i don't know how to stop him from doing this. he runs off everytime i mention to him about seeing someone. what should I do? Why is he doing this?
2007-04-19 13:22:14 · 19 answers · asked by Brandon d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i forgot to mention that my brother tried to kill himself earlier by drowning.
2007-04-19 13:41:04 · update #1
He is trying to cope.
He does not know how.
Maybe tell a school counselor...?
2007-04-19 13:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by mikey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death frightens Young people they can get the thought that everyone is going to die and leave him all alone. He should talk to a specialist in this area, they have grief counselors you can prepare him for the time your mom passes on. I felt that way when my gramma died and I was 9 years old, I was afraid that my mom and dad would die soon and I would be alone. He should get some one that he can talk to. He can't with you because your too close.
2007-04-19 13:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm he is sounds very troubled, I think the best thing is just to ignore the problem and just be nice to him. Don't do it is an obvious way but be pleasant and take care of him. Once he has your trust and knows that you are not going to ask him about the problem he will open up and then you can move on. Just be his friend. Maybe sent him some funny emials or something.
2007-04-19 13:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by mafewoooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is reacting to the grief he feels because your Dad passing away, and your MUM is dying. Your brother needs therapy to express his emotions in a proper manner. My condolances on the passing of your Dad! My Dad died over three years ago. I can relate! Take care of you and do the best you can to help your brothers and sisters. Best Wishes and May God Bless you and your Family!
2007-04-19 13:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk this over with your family doctor; he/she can then refer your brother for the help he so obviously needs, and he/she may need to include the police or other authorities to make sure he remains safe. You and the rest of your family can make certain he receives whatever help he needs.
This is such a difficult time for all of you, but your care and concern for your brother shows how well your parents have raised you all. Stay strong, but accept whatever help is offered; you don't have to face all this alone, and you don't deserve to.
2007-04-19 13:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by MomBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont mention his age, but I'm imagining he's quite young. 15? You guys are also quite young for all this to be happening. I hope things get easier for you all, but in the short term, I really think the only thing you can do is to be there for him, dont try to force or trick him into anything and just try to be open and suppoirtive if he should wantr to talk. Prehaps he might want to talk to some one else, have you tried talking to his friends to see if they are wooried or can also be ther top talk to him?
Try to get some support around him for yourself. In terms or caring for carers of bereaved children, they may also be able to offer advice on supporting him as well as telling you wahts happeing and what to expect.
good luck.
2007-04-19 13:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it must be hard for all of you to cope with all these thing´s. Your brother need´s help, but as you have said ,he speak´s to no one apart from answering his mail. Why don´t you all write him a letter by email, get his friend´s to do the same,but get him help before he does something bad to himself, I wish you luck
2007-04-19 20:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going through a very emotional part in his life, he just needs to take the time with his mom and cherish the time he has with her. What you can do is maybe try really hard to talk to him.
2007-04-19 13:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Joogles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help. I am sorry that you have to endure this on top of your huges losses. Stay with your other siblings and your mother and leave him alone for now. You need peace and love of your other siblings. He will be ok eventually but it should not be your concern right now.
2007-04-19 13:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its his way of dealing with the pain of losing your dad and now your mom isnt doing so well..not everyone deals with things in the same way..you and your siblings need to get him some professional help before he does something to himself though..he appears to (as you say) losing his mind..he needs to talk to someone, even though he wont talk to you, he may talk to someone that specializes in this field..i hope all goes well though..good luck and im so sorry for your loss..
2007-04-19 13:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never had an experience like this before but from what it sounds like, he is just very upset with loosing his parents and is having a really hard time dealing with it..try spending some extra time with him and make him more the center of attention by treating him to special things.
2007-04-19 13:26:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋