ok i have a boyfriend but im in love with this other guy. I used to flirt with the other guy until i found out he liked me back. to test how he really felt we made a stupid childish little bet that if he kissed me on the lips i would give him $10. well after school we were joking around until he put his arm around me and kissed me so... so... softly.(the most amazing kiss you could give somebod) does that meand im cheating on my boyfriend i mean i wanted that kiss but not that much. am i a cheater i dint think he would do it really plz help.
2007-04-19 12:46:01 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you did. First of all, you have feelings for someone else... and I guess different feelings could be grouped in different ways but you say you're in love with this guy. Then the guy kissed you and yes it would be his fault because he did it but then again it could come back around to you saying that you made the bet and plus you didnt do anything about it when he did. If you're in love with this other guy, and the kiss felt amazing then maybe you could reconsider the relationship you're currently in and make a decision because you cant have the both and you cant keep playing "games" like this. So I think you should think about who you really wanna be with and all and make a choice.
2007-04-19 12:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. If your boyfriend had this bet with another girl and kissed her the way this boy kissed you. Would you be hurt by it? If so, then you have done the wrong thing. In my opinion, mild flirting is as far as you should take things when you have a boyfriend. Making bets to kiss each other is not mild, actually following through is definately cheating.
2007-04-19 12:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by j81s79j06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are cheating. You are being dishonest, disloyal and dishonoring to yourself as well as your boyfriend. If you are kissing other boys when you have a boyfriend, what makes you think that if you end up with the other guy you love, he will trust you? You need to decide whether or not you really love your boyfriend (love is loyal and kind and not dishonest) and if you want to commit to the relationship you are in now, or if you want or need to let your current beau go so he could find a girl who will love him and be loyal to him. Make up your mind.
2007-04-19 12:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gah females are so silly, You have a guy you like and likes you, you bet him 10 bux he would kiss you what the hell would you think he would do *shakes head*.
I think him sticking his tounge down your neck usually counts as cheating. Its just a matter of if you want to tell the b/f or not although a relationship based on lies isnt a good one.
2007-04-19 12:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok don't worry. Yes it is cheating, BUT if you are really in love with this guy and you break up with your boyfriend, this is life. If you are sure the other guy likes you back, even better, you get to date the object of your desire!
What you should not do is stay with your bf while you like somebody else. i tried this and made everyone miserable, most importantly MYSELF. you will never be happy with your bf if ur in love with someone else! so leave him as soon as you can, for your sake and his! besides, you may hurting the guy you love who may want to date you but knows he cannot! think about it!
2007-04-19 12:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by lx3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consider what i learn, cheating usually is like that, most believe it's like i slept with her while you was somewhere else or something like that. but cheating is base around that you got a boyfriend/girlfriend and you kissing him/her and you love it so.
so im very sorry that your caught in this twist but i actually consider it cheating because you like your boyfriend but you have feeling for another person,
but then again it could be one of those things where you think you have feeling for the person but you don't. I hope this works out for you =)
2007-04-19 12:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love with the other guy, you wanted a kiss, you got it, and sounds like you're going to want it again......by the way Yes, you are cheating.
2007-04-19 12:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by curiousgeorge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if your boyfriend found out, I'm sure he wouldn't like it. You wanted it and you enjoyed it. What are you going to do next? Don't tell your boyfriend unless you want to cause a fight and break up.
2007-04-19 12:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did cheat , 1st all u're in love with someone else , 2nd u wanted a kiss and u got it and u're here bragging how good it was . Don't hurt your bf , if you do not love him let him go.
2007-04-19 12:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what it's called, behavior that you hide is not right. If you can't be open and honest about your behavior and your desires, it's time to examine whether or not you want to be in the relationship. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with the guys in your life.
2007-04-19 12:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋