My ex and i were together 6 years and have a 4 year old son,he`s 29 i`m 24.he left just after new year for the 2nd time and i know i should keep him in the past and only be civil for our sons sake but do you ever get the feeling your supposed to be together?At first it was awkward between us and i truly hated him but i then said we should be friends for our boys sake.he came and visited my sons school and made a joke about the janitors looking different these days refering to the goodlooking one that was there,i agreed and laughed was he just being friendly and letting me know he doesn`t care?
He has a new gf and i`m pretty certain they were together before he left us.I feel confused and dont know wether i maybe just miss his company as he was the closest person to me for 6 years.I know i could love again as i did like someone but it didn`t really happen and maybe i`m just a bit lonely again,opinions please??
2007-04-19 12:26:18 · 9 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you should leave him in the past as a relationship past. You do need to partake only as a father to your sons.
He is involved in a relationship and that is more the reason to stay away from him in that manner.
Think really hard about it. Do you really miss him, or do you miss what you really wanted him to be? What he could have been in your eyes?
It is better that you move on and let him go on with his relationship. Once you are able to let him go, you will be able to open your heart to someone new, someone who God had chosen for you. We sometimes have to go through people like this in order to really appreciate the right man when he comes along. I would focus on your son and getting out and making new friends or spending time with your family and old friends. I wouldn't try to be friends with your ex. Only be civil for your sons sake.
Hugs and prayers for your strength and courage sent your way.
2007-04-19 12:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two very separate and distinct roles involved, one is parenting, the other is lover. He obviously has chosen to move out of the lover role. You must also let him go as a lover; emotionally, physically, mentally, Spiritually. Somebody else awaits your love.
However, you and he will always be tied as parents. It is in your son's best interest to have TWO involved parents. For your son's sake, put aside your personal feelings, and work together as co-parents. This is a business relationship, dealing with the business of raising a child. Recognize that your ex is just as much your son's parent as you are and that your son needs him just as much as your son needs you. It's time that you maturely moved from a personal relationship with your ex to a business relationship. Keep interactions light and friendly, do not fight or argue in front of your son, and do not put your son in the middle of personal feelings between you and your ex. Find your romantic satisfaction elsewhere and be the mature parent and co-parent that your son needs you to be.
2007-04-19 12:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That must be tough. I would say that you almost have to remain "friends" with him since you probably do not want you son growing up without any father figure. However, that could be tough since he's with his new gf. Do what your heart tells you, but just try to be friends with him for your son's sake.
2007-04-19 12:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dramatic Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 11:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to fully move on when the person you care about is still around. Your feelings are completely normal. I think when you get with someone else and learn not to compare them to him and you truly love them for them you will be over him.
2007-04-19 12:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by the_gurl_in_ur_liquid_dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes things come full circle...maybe that's about to happen!
Always try and forget the past move forward to be happy.
2007-04-19 12:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Space Coast Virtual Services 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes forget your EX
Move on with your life
2007-04-19 12:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have to leave your ex in the past.
2007-04-19 12:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by MsJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is with someone else, he's UNAVAILABLE, off limits. Don't flirt, don't become 'the other woman'.
2007-04-19 12:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋