Ugh I hate this.....?

Question

Mmk so I hate my mom and idk if she hates me but its like everytime I am around her we always fight. I am a rude person I admit, I have NO respect for her. I curse at her all the time and I have a little bit on anger managment. I dont act like this at all at school and I have tons of friends, its just that when I hate my mom and shes like so rude and ugly and I HATE HER! Ugh she makes me so mad. I want to stop it though cause I am sick of all the arguments... I just turned 13.. Please Please Please help me!

Answer 1

Me and my mom fight a ton too. It looks like you both need to get out like go shopping or out to dinner just the two of you. Treat her like a friend not like a mom cause that's when the fighting starts. And it only gets worse as you get older. I'm 15... trust me I know. Just talk to her and tell her you love her (even if you don't) and appologize for what you did (even if you're in the right and you think she'll never understand). It works sometimes between me and my mom. You get a lot more freedom and respect from her if you do. Hope this helped.

Answer 2

You need to respect your mom! She's the only one you have. I understand that 13 is a rough age, but you know, life will be much easier as you grow older if you have a decent relationship with your mom. I never got along with my mom until I turned 18. I too thought my mom hated me, but now I see she only wanted the best for me, as your mom does for you. Just stop for a second, and think how your mom must feel when you cuss at her and disrespect her. It probably breaks her heart. Do you honestly deep down think your mom hates you? I don't know you or your mom, but I would think no. At an appropiate time, sit her down and have a heart to heart with her. Tell her how you really feel, (without yelling and swearing) and find a happy medium for the both of you. You don't want to be one of those disrespectful little brats you see on talk shows getting sent to boot camp. We've all been though it with one family member or another. Good luck, and remember, she's your mom and she will always love you.

Answer 3

I'm sure you're not going to hear this but, why don't you try being nice to her? If you treat other people on how you want to be treated then you'll have more people respecting your opinion.

Try to the mature one here. Don't cuss at her or say things that are mean (like her being ugly. It's hurtful and it doesn't help anything. Even though, you think it's true, it doesn't need to be said. There's no purpose to it.). It'll be hard, but try only responding to her in a positive way and blocking out any negativity. If she's says something negative, just brush it off and say something nice.

Especially, don't go throwing things or hitting someone else, or even breaking stuff.

Answer 4

I think we all went through this. I know you don't want to hear it, but things WILL improve. Read up on anger management tricks--writing in a journal about your mom, punch pillows, tell your friends.
More importantly, be honest with your mom about your feelings. yet do not be rude when you are telling her. Stay calm and let her know you are simply trying to make things better for the two of you to have a more peaceful home. Take time to reflect on what you would like to say, and most importantly, stay calm. Anger only ruins rationality and relationships.

Answer 5

You are 13,you really have no business hating anyone. You really have to have some life experience to know what someone else has has to live through. You don't say how she's rude or why you have no respect for her. Being ugly doesn't make you a bad person-not all of us are lucky to be born pretty. Does she feed you,clothe you,give you a room to live in? If yes,give her that at least

Answer 6

the way i see it if you didn't have these anger issues you wouldn't care to express your inner feelings toward your mom. yes you DO love your mom and you know it. ladies always tend to be at each others throats over any little thing heck men too it's normal and in fact natural to be a little tiffed at family members even if they are petty and hardly anything to fight about at all in reality. just the simple fact you verbalize these anger feelings tells me in all honesty you DO care and love her in which i say way to go show your love don't express all the negatives on it. sure we all have some " issues " but who don't if someone says they don't they are lying. try this find another form of speaking your mind maybe an artistic outlet! art is very emotional and reveals alot of what we feel due to the pure raw emotion we pour into it. and allow that to be your anger outlet. ask your mom to sit in and watch you work you will find you have more to talk about than scream about. which is definately a good thing for the both of you.

Answer 7

the same thing happened with me and my mom! but now im 14 NDall of a sudden the fighting just stoped its probally becasue i matured or somehting but i think the same thing will happen to you
but to give you some advice form my experince if you feel a fight coming dont say anything just go up to ur room and cool off and then talk to ur mom just to prevent the fights and the stress
see with me i did that but the only problem is my mom would always come to my room and try to keep fighting with me so yea i hope ur moms not like that
good luck!

Answer 8

Too young to be arguing with your mom and she is due lots of respect. Apologize now. Establish a relationship with her and stay around her, spend time, talk about different things of life. Do not hate mom cause you cannot have your way, remember mom knows best.

Answer 9

Dear girly-girl, funny how you lack respect but are happy to accept the food she puts on the table for you and the roof she puts over your head. You are a prime candidate for what is colloquially termed a good kick in the *rse where I come from. Get your head together and give your mother the proper respect she is entitled to.
So many 13 year olds figure they are SO grown up - you aint even on the adult radar yet.

Answer 10

she doesn't hate you but, i'm sure she's fed up with you disrespectful attitude. i know i would be. you need to speak to a family counselor. they can help the two of you work out your problems. in the mean time, quit swearing at your mom and being so rude. work on that anger. find out where it's really coming from.