my adopted mom who faked the adoption records! into her name like she never did so how can i find my real mom?

Answer 1

If your birth certificate has your adoptive mothers name as your mother on it, it is not because she faked records. Most people who are adopted have an amended birth certificate to show their adoptive parents as their parents. That is because many adoptions are closed adoptions and the records are sealed. Some closed adoption records are sealed until the person comes of age, others are sealed permenantly. It depends on the laws of your state. In many places, an adoptee is able to get their non-identifying information on their birth mom when they reach 18 years of age. Sometimes the non-identifying pieces don't mean much by themselves, but when put together, it is able to paint a pretty clear picture of the biological parent.

If finding your bio family is important to you, maybe you should sit down with your adoptive mom and talk about your situation. you might find that she is more supportive than you ever gave her credit for.

Answer 2

before freaking out... it is AN ABSOLUTE part of adoption that the court and state amend the birth certificate to show the adoptive parents. Your adoptive mom changed nothing. It is standard procedure.
In MANY cases... the bio mom gives up the child for a good reason, and does not necessarily want to be found. Other times, the bio mom is completely incapable of caring for a child (drugs, abuse, etc), and her rights are terminated by a court.
I don't have a clue as to your relationship with your adoptive parents.. well, that's not exactly true. She may not be the mother who gave birth to you, but she made A CHOICE to try and give you a decent life.
By acting out of anger (at something that is not accurate), you risk destroying the relationship with someone who chose to be a parent to you, even if they might not be a perfect angel.

Answer 3

I was just wondering about the newspaper birth announcements...
seems like a good source to check.

Most adoptions take place in the same locality as the birth (though, yes, not all).

Finding out...
starts a chain of grieving,
moving through coming to terms with loss.
Yet,
some other "stuff" begins to make sense:
Like being treated differently (and perhaps better) than siblings (who you find out aren't biological, too).

So, this is a journey,
perhaps requiring a good plan,
to help "get past" some of the emotions,
and onto finding.

The truth is that in some localities the birth certificate is stamped with the word, "illegitimate," when out-of-wedlock.
Then the biological parents, after marrying, "adopt" their own child (to get that word off the certificate and saving the child life-long explanations (and perhaps embarassment)).

Answer 4

Believe it or not, your questions begin with your adopted mom...where did she get you? Perhaps there was someone she knew back when who gave you to her...I know a woman in Sacramento, who was a truck driver, (big rigs) who had a baby she just didnt' want and she gave him away to a friend...the baby was gorgeous, my friend had the mom sign it over in papers with a notary and that was that...the mom just took off and left her son...so the questions begin with the mom you have..and don't be too hard on her...after all is sounds like she really loves you and wants you enough.

Answer 5

Adoptions go thru court so how do you figure she faked the records.? If you're over 18 you can go to the agency where your adoption was handled. If its sealed then you'll have to petition the court to open the records to you.

Answer 6

if you could get the real social secrity number you could check by that-or if she ever voted -there is a voter regester if you have no real name .can not get no were you take the bible people in there make them a idel .some do not know there father or mother .makes you fell kind of i guess you would say felling something missing .we got choices in life to make GOD are superior ,with out him we can not breath he takes are last breath so first you are number one , then god then family members .your family can not take your hand to the other side only GOD , he is first family ,i do hope you find your real mother ,but some time you may not want to there was a case the father of the daughter got the daughter pregnant the mother gave the baby up would she be mother or sister it can be tuff why some parents gave up the child in the first place ,some cases rape the mother can not handle it
so for the best of the child it was given up .ask questions of whom might of been around to know your mother birthdates were were they living ,some cases was a good thing but be prepared for the either way it could go

Answer 7

You have to know your mom's real name...if you don't know it try going to the hospital you were born at....or call the adoption agency,they must have some sort of record. Once you get the info try one of those services that find people for you. they do cost money though.

Answer 8

if you were adopted at birth, then they would automatically put your adoptive parents name on the certificate, and not the birth mother.

Answer 9

If you know the State of your birth, go to the Department of Vital Statistics in that state and ask if you can look for records for your birth, or, can they look-up the information for you.

Answer 10

u cant she is long gone