This guy told me he liked me since we first met, which was 3 years ago. Well he says I mean alot to him, and that he would do anything for me. He has a "girlfriend" but he says they are just really good friends and people mistaken them for a couple. He wanted to kiss me but I felt that I would be the one that would ruin his relationship with his "girlfriend". He says that she is moving and their planning to break up. Should I believe him? I like him too.
2007-04-19 11:41:17 · 37 answers · asked by Jeannie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, guys like that would say anything to get some. there is no point of try to reason with the situation. you're better than that. just tell him "thanks, but no thanks; i have enough drama in my life". stay clear of this guy; he's bad news.
2007-04-19 11:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may be genuine and truly care for you but before you jump in head first and get hurt i think you should find out what is really going on with his 'girlfriend'. If you know this girl then why not question her about their relationship. If they are not a couple why are they planning to 'break up'??? Good friends don't plan on breaking up!!! I don't doubt that this guy cares about you but I don't think he is being truly honest and open about the other girl...... possibly he wants to have you both OR he is prepared to leave her for you. You should work out what you want out of this relationship and if this guy can live up to all your expectations. Also are you willing to lose your friendship with him if a relationship doesn't work out well? Whatever you decide, you deserve a guy that wants to be committed to just you.... so be sure he is single before you take it any further. Good luck!!!!!!
2007-04-19 11:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by sweetozzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait until she moves... If he's telling the truth about his feelings he'll still be around... unless he goes out and gets a new girlfriend between then and now... then you'd know for sure he was full of it after all.
You could casually ask her if they are together because they seem so close. There's no crime in that.
Theres a good chance they are together tho. If he's lying and you fall for it then he's just put you in a very bad situation and she will probably hate you forever.
You're doing the right thing so far.
... and uhh.... I guess if you wait till she moves and he swears they are broken up... then it isn't your fault if he lied to you about it, but while she's still here and you still worry about it... its probably better and more considerate of her feelings to find out the truth first.
2007-04-19 11:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question? How can two people "break up" if they're not a couple in the first place. he needs to STOP playing games. What he's really saying is" I missed my chance with you and now I have a GIRLFRIEND but I still want my chance with you"and you say" You waited 3 years, you can WAIT some more"-don't be desperate
2007-04-19 11:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This situation sound strangely familiar. What do you think? I think you want to believe him and are looking for people to tell you that you should trust him because he really loves you. I'm not going to do that though. You know deep down inside that he is not being straight with you and that you are hurting. You know that you should move on and that you are missing opportunities to be with guys that really do want to be with you. Please be fair to yourself. I've been through this and all my friends just told me what I wanted to hear but were nowhere to be found when my heart finally go really stomped on. Maybe she is moving but he is just stringing you along - and her, for that matter. You are both better off without him.
2007-04-19 11:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by kvcar2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's lying, if they were really just friends then he would not feel the need to defend their status that everyone sees them as a couple, he is only telling you that she is just a good friend to ease his conscious and to make things appear that he is single and available therefore in his mind no one will be hurt which isn't the case.....
2007-04-19 12:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...well just talk things over with him. let him know you dont want to be the other girl or even less ppl see you as a bad person for ruining a relationship...
If you want something serious with him let him know...and remind him that in a serious relationship you cant have ppl mistaken who the girlfriend is.
If he calls this girl his girlfriend then something is up with her. dont let him play with both of you. thou i dont know if thats what his doing ...if he says hes going to do something just remember:
actions speak lauder than words!
2007-04-19 11:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute...he has a gf but they say they're really good friends, yet when he tells you his "girlfriend" is moving, he says they're planning to break up? That doesn't sound right. Ask this question to him casually and see what he says.
If he has a good answer, wait until the girl has moved and THEN you can date him if you want. Good luck. :)
2007-04-19 11:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you know this girl? If you've known him for 3 years, I'm guessing you do... so why not just ask her what's up? If they're really just friends, she might even encourage him to go out with you... If they're together, at least you know the truth and there's no harm done on your part.
2007-04-19 11:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jannie,
Sounds to me like you've gotten your self in a world of ****. Your falling for a guy who lies and cheats. You should really look the other way and keep those feet a moving. If he can do this to her then guess what? He will do it to you.
2007-04-19 11:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by loving U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe him, well I have some swamp land to sell you.
He is playing you and you are so desperate that you will believe anything. Stop selling yourself short and find a guy who isn't taken. I highly doubt his girlfriend would think you are anything but a backstabber.
2007-04-19 11:46:07 · answer #11 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋