What do you think I should do ?

Question

Hi im getting married this year and we where planning on having a honey moon. We got the Hotel booked and everything, but just the other day I decided not to go on my honey moon, as we dont really have enought money to spend there its only too blackpool, even if we start saving now last time we went we spent £200 in just one day. We are asking for money instead of wedding gifts as we already live together we dont really need anything we are saving for a new depsoit for a new house. Anyways on our honey moon we were going to use some of the money we get to spend on our honey moon incase we dont have enough. Im always worring about things like money and stuff. But then I felt guitly about using the money we get for saving as its towards our furture, but I do want to get away for a few days as we have never really been away together for various reasons. We probably will have enough to go if we save from now on but I feel guilty about taking it out of the wedding money if we have too.

Thanks for your advice.

No we didnt ask for cash out right there is no way I would do that. People have been asking my parents for a gift list and they are letting them know and its sort of getting passed around by word of mouth. I cant believe you would even think I would just come out and ask for cash.

I just explain that we have everything we need and are saving for our future so in place of gifts so on and so on.

People understand, I just tried to shorten my question.

Answer 1

Sounds like you could really do with this break - so go ahead and take it. Yes it`s expensive in blackpool, but if all goes to plan - and your parents are doing a good job putting the word out - there`s no reason why you shouldn`t go. Worry about the serious stuff when you get back - although you seem to be doing ok. Stop worrying about something that`s supposed to be the happiest time of your life - and start looking forward to it. Best wishes.

Answer 2

A honey moon is what the wedding should be... time spend celebrating your love with your new husband and sealing that special bond through the promise of commitment. The marriage ceremony is for everyone else. Spend less on everyone else and use your money and theirs generously for your honeymoon. This is a one-time very important event that will set the pace for your marriage. Treat this special event... like it is special. You wouldn't put plain cotton under-ware on under your beautiful wedding dress just to save money. That's false advertising. Start your marriage out right. Have fun. You have your whole future together to save an plan for other things. You may regret, or think, what if, if you don't go on the honeymoon for the rest of your life. The thought or regret of the money spent will eventually fade away.

Answer 3

Well first of all, best wishes on you marriage! A honeymoon is a very special time, I fear that you will regret it if you do not go and have a great time! We spend our entire lives worrying about money and trying to save ( I know my husband is probably really tired of hearing me worry about retirement or savings). Life is short and meant to be lived though. Let this time in your life be extraordinary!! I am not saying to go completely mad and spend too much- I know from experience that the most memorable and special weddings where those done on a tight budget- but were simple and elegant. It is a day for love, not spending every last dime you have. When it comes to your honeymoon, you will need that to continue your celebration with the one you marry. My husband and I actually eloped ( with our family's blessing and knowledge) We had a fabulous time on our honeymoon! Nothing huge, just the two of us enjoying ourselves, sightseeing and traveling. Have a great time- I am sure your family and friends would want that for you!!!!!

Answer 4

I wouldn't feel too guilty taking money and spending it from the wedding money, like you said you have everything you need for the house.
At the end of the day people will be giving you that money to spend it on what you want the two of you.
Tell you husband/wife to be how you feel and go from there. You have to make the most of your wedding day and the time that follows.
A saying i always say to myself when i don't have enough money or are a bit short is "You can't take it with you when you're gone"

Answer 5

Go on your honeymoon I reckon. Don't waste your money by boozing or smoking it away most nights (I'm not saying that YOU do - I'm only saying that is what most people do these days!). Even if you only manage 1 week away, it finishes off the wedding nicely! For future, set up a good savings plan. I get skitted by my fiance 'cos between us we've got 7 bank accounts - 4 of them are my personal accounts of varying kinds, 2 of them are our joint accounts, and the last one is his! I just spirit a bit of money away into them every month - and I ain't minted, just careful. I've got my own wedding this year and we've also just bought our own house. You don't have to go that mad, but just do whatever works for you!

Answer 6

Best wishes to you on your coming wedding!

Will a friend or relative be hosting a shower in your honor, prior to the wedding? If so, she would probably be delighted to make your honeymoon trip the theme of the shower. She could simply word the shower invitations appropriately so that people will contribute to your honeymoon fund.

It's really not polite for you to "ask for money" in lieu of wedding gifts from your friends and family. Mentioning it to a few close friends and/or relatives should probably get the word out to guests.

Answer 7

Why not go to another place instead of Blackpool and spend less. Say a B&B in the Lake District. Go hiking and wandering through the many walks and rambles. That way you get fresh air and feel romantic at the same time. And there are no sweet shops on the way!! And God's creation and beauty is ammmmaaaazzziiinggg. you'll lvoe it.

Answer 8

"We are asking for money instead of wedding gifts as we already live together we dont really need anything we are saving for a new depsoit for a new house."

Ugh, you actually outright asked for cash? That's one of the tackiest things you can do.

But regardless - if you get cash as a wedding gift, you can do whatever you wish with it. Just be sure to writer the giver a prompt thank you note.

Answer 9

Me and my hubby were so hard up when we got married that we used some of our money to shop for food! Don't worry about it - enjoy your wedding and enjoy a week in Blackpool - I mean it's not like you're asking for much! We went without a honeymoon altogether and have regretted it ever since.

Answer 10

In reality, the money that is given to you if a gift. Therefore, it is yours. You should not feel bad if part of it is used to spend time alone with your new spouse. I am sure if the people knew that you needed a bit of extra cash for a honeymoon that you want, they would give you money anyway.