First of all if you have nothing nice to say dont answer a question. And before I start dont assume you know all of the situation. I have never been in a postion where I have been the one feeling like I am breaking someones heart. I was in a two year relationship that recently ended. He had a drug problem he overcome I was unfaithful because I didnt want to leave him but I was hurt by his previous drug issues. It dosnt mean I didnt love him no matter what anyone thinks. We broke up 3 weeks ago and I still want to be close with him but he is telling me he is holding out hope for us and he still loves me. I dont know if we will ever get back together or not and I dont want to give him a false sense of hope. He asked me out on a date and is willing to do nething he has to to show me he loves me. I have been tied down in a relationship for the past 14 years of my love and I am only 30. He asked me out on a date tomorrow and I told him yes. I want to be able to date and not hurt him.
2007-04-19 10:51:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh that is really sweet, whoever told you that you didn't love him was really wrong, don't listen to that crap. He probably needs you right now, so just be a friend. Take things slow, you had to deal with a lot and you deserve a lot. I think you're on the right track.
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2007-04-19 10:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs a friend, you both care about each other and bad stuff happens sometimes in relationships, you cheated and he had or has a drug problem. The thing is you still care for and respect each other so i would hope you can be friends and there for each other and if you find your way back as far as getting a relationship started then great and if not then it would be good to maintain the friendship. Good luck.
2007-04-19 11:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving him false hope and leading him on. You said he is holding onto false sense of hope but your verifying that hope by going on that date with him. If you want to end the relationship with him you have to be clear that this relationship has to end. It's lethal and doesn't seem like a healthy relationship especially with the issues you listed. I am not saying you don't have to stop loving him, you can always love him but this relationship seems to be tying you down and there is probably more opportunities for you waiting so it's time to close that door and open a new one.
2007-04-19 10:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Like a dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated so you are wrong no matter what you want to think. There is no excuse for cheating and no amount of rationalization will wash away that stain. How noble of you to cheat but not want to hurt him by leaving...what a crock.
You proved you didn't love him when you cheated, stop trying to minimize your bad behavior.
Be a good woman for once and save him the heartache, tell him that you don't want to go out with him. Let him restart his life without a cheater.
Oh and next time don't tell me what I can and cannot write on a free and open forum.
2007-04-19 10:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If drug are in his life he has to work on overcoming this first. And this takes a long time. You can not build a loving relationship that will last. But you can be a good friend.
2007-04-19 11:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time apart is probably a good thing.. You both can re-evaluate your own situations and take care of yourselves first. Then if both of you are ready to either get back together or move on, it will be a healther situation.
2007-04-19 10:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel about breaking up. If u don't want to hurt him by going out with soeone then ask him if he is ok with it first sence u just broke up. it worked for me now I can see anyone I want to.
2007-04-19 10:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about what you are doing, and where your head is. Cheating is cheating, no matter what your excuse was back then. Love or not, it's a very selfish act.
Treat others as you'd like to be treated...it's that simple.
2007-04-19 10:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FREE SPEECH and YOU asked!!!! Last time I looked this IS a FREE country and when you ASK people they will say what they think - GOOD AND BAD .......ggeeezzzzzz.
If someone loves you - they will NOT cheat. Cheating is selfish. Dating is not marriage and when you try to play house when it's not - that's your dumb mistake.
2007-04-19 10:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on the date but tell him it is as a friend nothing more at this point in time.
2007-04-19 10:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by dasalsman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋