My mother has a brain tumor and she dying away everyday. My dad told me and my sister not to mention it in front of our mom. But I do want to ask my mom about it, I just can't. I feel so afraid and I dont want to upset my mother. I know my father wants everything to be normal, but this is even normal?
2007-04-19 09:36:47 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh dear God, no sweetheart...you NEED to talk with mom. It's not normal and Dad shouldn't pretend for it to be. I'm sure he is in denial about her illness, but he needs to see that you and sis have to come to terms with it and it is not fair to you. I hope he sees what this is doing to you both.
God bless you and your family, hon.
2007-04-19 09:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by mrs O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when my mom was dying from cancer we didn't really talk about it either. it just was. there are a lot of things i wish i'd talked to her about. my thought is, you should talk to her. it may be that your dad doesn't want her life to be defined by her illness and he wants things to be "normal" but, lets face it, nothing is going to be the same whaen she's gone. now is the time to say the things you need to say and if you have questions, ask her. she is the only one who has the answers and soon, she won't be able to give them to you. i don't think you'll upset her by asking. she is your mom. she wants to know you'll be okay and if that means answering a few questions, i'm sure she'll be happy to tell you what you want to know.
i'm so sorry for you. you are all in my prayers. god bless
2007-04-19 18:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋