I have strategically ruined my life. I met the man of my dreams and he was very into me and i pushed him away because of my past hurt and family problems. when he couldn't take it anymore i acting like a total psycho bombarding him with text messages. he never knew that i lost two close family members within 6 weeks right after we broke up and that's why i flipped. it's been a month and i'd like to reach out, but i know he won't take my calls, and any email will come accross psycho. we have mutal friends who told me he doesn't have another serious girl and i know where he hangs out. i'm thinking of trying to run into him and try to talk to him. i liked him so much, and i know he liked me at first and tried to be patient. but all my friends say once a guy decided he doesn't want you anymore, he doesn't. do i have any hope? i'm not conceited, but i'm not very ugly, and he was really crazy for me at first so i wonder if he sees me looking good it might make him want me again?
2007-04-19 09:01:26 · 9 answers · asked by Lisa L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is just about the first guy that didn't seem like he was only after one thing. after i told him the first time i wasn't ready, he never pressured me again. he's such a great man, and i wish he could be back in my life
2007-04-19 09:03:58 · update #1
There really isn't a great deal you can do, to undo what you did. That is deep in his concious and subconcious mind now.
All you can do, after your grief and sadness has past, is to let some time go by. It might take weeks or months, and when you feel as well as you can, then try to make contact with him.
Perhaps mutual friends, can explain the situation to him, so he will understand better, what you were going through.
It may or not help, but there isn't much else you can do.
Only he and time, will tell, if there is a chance for you both.
2007-04-19 09:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing. almost. i had a guy who was really in love with me, and i started getting all over-emotional and kind of pushed him away, and i dont know what to do to get him back...
if he doesnt take your calls, that means a lot. it's been a long enough period of time that the anger should have died down, so he's not avoiding you because he doesn't want to FIGHT...i think he could be ignoring you because he just doesn't want the relationship anymore, im sorry to say. write him a nice email saying what you need to say, and leave it at that. if he responds or call you, then you know he's open to talking. but if he ignores it, then you know to move on.
2007-04-19 16:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by buckeyeXOXOcutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def don't try to "bump into" him...that will come off really psycho. I would attempt an email or letter first. Explain the situation and then wait and see. If he is really a great guy like you say then he will understand the situation and atleast let you talk to him....if not you gotta move on.
2007-04-19 16:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off im not a guy. hope thats not a problem.
i think you should go where he hangs out. if he really is crazy about you it wont really matter how you look. but that dosnt mean you cant look nice.
just tell him what was happening and why you had problems. tell him that the problem are over now and you would really like to give you guys another shot.
just express yourself. i think that should work
2007-04-19 16:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nicolette Martin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run into to him and tell him the truth about what happened to you dont lie and make excuses men like honesty and if he really did like you then he will understand and might forgive you and maybe start to hook up again and stop acting like psycho lol just kidding
2007-04-19 16:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jaxs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, stop worrying about it and act on your impulse to call him or even go over and explain your "mental" meltdown to him. IF he is the man of your dreams, then he will understand, maybe slowly and with hesitation, but he will understand.
Good luck!
2007-04-19 18:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd leave well enough alone... drop hints with your friends that you want to get in touch with him and see what happens... :D
2007-04-19 16:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter. If he doesn't respond, let it go.
2007-04-19 16:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say learn from it and move on.
2007-04-19 16:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋