My first love and girlfriend of 10 years just dumped me. How do I deal? This hurts more than losing family...

Question

Most of my family has died in that 10 years. Like a lil' b*tch i alienated most of my friends being with her. She brought back my emotion, and provided the only romantic love i've ever known. Now i don't know if it's better to just not feel.. Dang it. Well, that's it for my complaining for now, hit me with some truth!

Answer 1

It's going to hurt less as each minute, hour, day goes by, but to get thru these minutes, hours and days you need to keep yourself occupied. It depends on what kind of person you are whether you want lots of friends and activities or whether you'd like quiet things like reading or watching movies (comedies are best at a time like this). I would suggest that you go out and join a book club at the library or book store, volunteer at the local animal shelter, call your mom and ask her to lunch (but tell her no talking about ex)., ask your grandma if she needs any errands run or household chores done. True to find an old high school friend thru classmates.com or reunion.com. Do an ancestry search on your family origins. Keeping your mind occupied is the key. And please know that some crying time is needed and necessary and normal. I personally think first loves are harder to lose than any other love in your life. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

Just go find a new girlfriend and you will forget that breeze quick. No girl is worth you losing your manhood over like you are, it's just a girl. Think of it this way, she is currently "being" with another guy, she sure isn't losing any sleep over you.

Clearly you have never lost a family member or you wouldn't have said what you did...

Answer 3

Ohhh hun :( It may sound stupid but TIME heals all wounds.

Answer 4

10 years??!?! wtf??! Why didn't you propose to her 5 years ago dude? How do you deal? Spend time with friends and family and stop moping. It will only make you worse...and fat.

Answer 5

suicide is an option