My son is dating a girl for 2 1/2 years. I met the mother, son & girlfriend included, once a year ago for dinner. Both Dad's were excluded from the meeting. We'll all get together (Dad's & Mom's) sometime in the future.My son & girlfriend will probably get married in a few years. Her older sister is getting married in June. My Husband and I were invited to the wedding (which we're not attending). We will send a wedding gift. Should we send an engagement gift if we weren't invited to the engagement?
2007-04-19 08:31:12 · 13 answers · asked by rachelschwartz2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In the United States - because I do not know where you are writing from - Engagement gifts are not expected.
2007-04-19 08:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by beckinvegas 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Engagement parties are not gift giving occassions - - so they were totally in the wrong to include registry info with that invitation and to give you the notion that a gift was expected or even appropriate for that situation. Bridal Showers are gift giving occassions and it is normal to include registry info in there. The bridal shower is a separate gift giving occassion from the wedding. The wedding itself is a gift giving occassion however it is rude to include registry info in this invite (although if the couple was crude enough to include it with the engagement party invite, expect to see it in the wedding invite). So, to sum it up, if you attend all 3 events you should only give 2 gifts - - shower & wedding.
2016-05-19 00:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to send an engagement gift. It's a shame you can't attend the wedding though, even though you will send a gift. It would be a chance to meet some of your future daughter-in-law's family.
2007-04-19 08:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just give a gifts for the events you were invited to..... but if you chose to send her an engagement gift, that's very nice of you. I love vintage items and a friend's mother mailed me two cups from the 50's for our engagement- one says MOM and the other DAD on them both in pink and baby blue. They are hysterical and I love them :) She found them in her attic.
It's the thought that counts!
2007-04-19 08:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't give engagement gifts.
Why in the world aren't you going to the wedding?
2007-04-19 08:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to send an engagement gift.
2007-04-19 16:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not necessary to send an engagement gift.
2007-04-19 09:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On an engagement party, gifts are not necesary. A simple card will suffice.
Good luck
2007-04-19 08:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessary. Kind of you to contemplate sending one though.
2007-04-19 08:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to, just what you prefer to do. a wedding gift should be sufficient.
2007-04-19 10:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋