Why do all the unavailable men pursue me?

Question

Men who are jerks, married or just plan not on my level to support a lasting relationship are always after me. I'm tired of waiting for Mr. Right to ask me out. Should I do all the asking from now on? I'm not getting any younger.. I am 31 and with two daughters?

Answer 1

I think that it may be possible that you find yourself attracted to people for all the right reasons, but there situation prevents your relationship from going any further. I always say you cant help how you feel but you can help what you do. In respect to the men that are married it would seem that they are attracted to you because of good things they see in you but they obviously have a marriage that is not working. I would think that you will have to be very guarded against ending up in relationships with married me. It sounds like you get plenty of interest, it just needs to be the right kind of interest. You should probally consider a dating service, because you have a situation in which you need a perfectly suited mate for. Try them out and see if that helps.

Answer 2

It's really sad, but alot of men get intimidated by the fact that you have children. Then they find it is so much easier to cheat, if they're attracted to you, because they probably have their own kids already. I have seen it happen alot especially when I was working at a Police Dept.

Get the hell away from those idiots. Mr. Right is coming. I met my Mr. Right when I was 33 and my dear, it is worth the wait. Good Luck

Answer 3

That's funny - a month ago you asked, "I am the mother of his 7 mo. old child, I love him and he loves me. The problem is he still has two older kids, a house and a wife. Should I wait for him to get the divorce or should I start dating other people?"

Obviously since you have two kids by two different men who are not around any more, you like to screw jerks, married guys, and men who are just plain not on your level.

That level would be, by the way, self-deluded easy lay attention whore.

The rest of us will now go back to our nice lives and forget about you until your next stupid question pops up.

Answer 4

It's funny how that works. I think that you should start doing the asking out. Perhaps that is what it will take. Then you can begin to weed out the ones that aren't right for you. Also, think about where you are meeting men. As far as your daughters are concerned, whoever you meet should respect the fact that you have children. Think about your interests and see if you can meet a man in a common interest area. I met my husband online! :) Perhaps you could give that a try. Just be careful. Good luck!

Answer 5

Unfortunately, it's in the genes. Men will tend to go for variety more so then women. Even if they are married or have a significant other. That's why we are so different when it comes to relationships. Your task i guess is to not get hooked up with one that is taken already and just be aware of those that say they are available. Be proactive and don't wait around ....go out and look for the one. Good things come to those who look for it...not to those who wait. It's a big sea out there...just watch out for the sharks!
Good luck!

Answer 6

don't get tired.. 31 is not old yet... maybe you feel tired and bored of your life now.. you can try some make over and do some shopping to make you more attractive and feel good about yourself :-)
here's what you should do to the unavailable men who pursue you: you should BARK at them!
you should believe that somebody decent and deserves your love will appear, it's just in the matter of time :-)
try to do something useful to fill up time and stop thinking about relationship.. true love will appear when you least expecting it!

Answer 7

Sometimes when you wait for something you miss it. There is no reason that you cannot start doing the asking. There is nothing wrong with a woman asking a guy out. Your still gonna run into jerks and losers, but you may find yourself a good man. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Well, waiting is no fun for anyone. If you're looking for a spouse, you should feel comfortable with asking out the available men you are interested in. Unfortunately, there are too many guys that are interested in the "forbidden fruit" aspect of dating while they're married or otherwise involved with someone.

Don't worry, there are plenty of great guys out there that are looking for a great woman to have a family with!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Yes and watch out who your hangin out with. Also realize that mr.right might need to be just your friend in the began. To much people like to put the lover before the friendship. BAD Friends can make great lovers, but lovers won't always make great friends.... Also push these guys away, you should be able to pick them out from the frist 3 lines...