We been together for almost 2 years. I have never cheated on him, & I love him more then anything in my life (seriously) but I am leaving him because he has character flaws that are not good for him & especially not for me...he is very young (I 25 him 22) & is a big FLIRT & he has anger problems (do the math on that one!) & no job ( I know yawl think why do i love him???? I just do! Okay?) so I am leaving & I am not going to go back...HOWEVER I am only so positive because I am hoping that once I am gone he will make a change in his lifestyle...so how probable are my chances of him having a wake up call & actually really changing???? & When should I take him back if he does realiuze what he lost? i really love him yawl!
2007-04-19 08:03:01 · 2 answers · asked by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
None... or maybe one in a million,(it would take more then you leaving inorder to create the right ego development he would need inorder to be emotionally health) because girls like you our a dime a dozen.... sorry, but he can easily find some one else to control, just like he controls you. I say this to because love isn't enough to save this relationship. This isn't a small matter of him not understanding how important you are to him. This is a matter of him being angery with himself. That type of behavior is usual brought by extreme self-centerness which your apparently attract'd to because you like to be controlled... darn co-dependents (don't worry I'm one to, but I know I'm one!!!) but your letting love blind to the fact your in heck... and its not going to change(atleast you got smart enough to leave, even if your intentions are fool-hearted)... Again humanity can love a lot of things, take a tree for instance. He can worship it, eat around, dance, make-love and live his life. But that doesn't stop that tree from falling on his head and killing him. Only his darn common sense well save him from that fate. Use your brain.... this guy isn't worth your time and you've got some problems with yourself thinking you desever this fella just because you love him... but heck its your life, if you want that answer I'll give it to you. When he breaks down and says baby, baby I need you back, take him back, and you'll find yourself right back were you start'd.... its part of the cicle of abuse and also neglect... enjoy!! Also he doesn't have lifestyle issues, he has life issues. What he sees is love isn't what you see is love... so have a fun time trying to teach an old dog new tricks, because he is to old to change his ways now. Also you might want to look into some conseuling, really, I mean you took his anger problems, that shows an extreme lack of self-respect, overwelming issues with fear and abandoment, and a lack of understand mature love.You can hide behind your love all you want, but I've got a better understanding of the underlining truths... love isn't enough baby girl... but I have the feeling that your use to dealing with crap so your not going to be without this guy for long, and shoot if I'm wrong, I'll be happy, so please prove me wrong....
2007-04-19 08:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably best that you do leave him but I will personally tell you that you most likely will not ever get him back. The reason I say this is because leaving him will hurt him a lot and he will hold a grudge, I am only guessing because you said he had an anger problem. If you do have a chance to take him back tell him he has to stop with the anger crap, get a job and hold it and stop the flirting, and don't let him back in your life until he has proven that he can do all these things and prove to you that he cares enough to make the change. If he is willing then you might have a chance but if he makes no effort then move on you’re just wasting your time. Good luck...
2007-04-19 15:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋