This girl I'm still talking to is a total sweetheart, she's everything I could ask for. I told her I like her and she she's known for about 3wks. now I told her I wanna take it slow. She says she is busy, which she is, she really can't make time either. For one she's not suppose to have boyfriends and two she is busy with tennis, meetings (because she use to do meth), church, babysitiing, errands for her parents and uncle, cooking, cleaning, school work, and one of the last thing she needs is a boyfriend. She kinda proved she can't have one when I sorta got mad (well a lot of mad) when she didn't return my call. I told her to be blunt and tell me she is letting me down easy but she insists she still wants me to call her almost everyday and be her friend. I'm like man! What should I do she means a lot to me? I don't want nobody else. Help me please.
Should I wait or say forget it, she called yesterday but I didn't answer her call.
2007-04-19 07:38:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forget it
2007-04-19 07:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well sounds like you have a girl who can't make up her mind and won't give you an explanation thats sounds truthful. Because I don't think you truly beleive anything she told you about him I think something happen or else you wouldnt have any doubts you sound like a good guy and sounds like you have a girl who is taking advantage of the comfort zone you have put her in and what you need to do is shake it up a little. She took that break because she started to have feelings for him and she didn't tell you that maybe because she wanted to preserve your relationship or she couldn't. So when she tells you nothing happened thats bullshit. What you need to do is find out how much she loves you and break up with her on the grounds that you don't trust her. And if she loves you truly loves you she will come clean after while in an attempt to get you back if she lied but if she does not come after you then you got your answer she cheated on you and don't care about you anymore. Sounds like she is not being honest and thats not good in any relationship. Like I said earlier you sound like a good man and you don't deserve a women who won't be honest with you.
2016-04-01 09:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl really needs a friend to be with at this moment. If you really care about this girl you will be there for her when she needs it most like now. If I was you I would be her friend and then when she is ready to have a bf you should ask her out and she will almost certainly say yes cause she will remember that you were there for her when she needed someone. Call her back and tell her that you want to be there for her.
2007-04-19 07:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you're in a tough situation. Most importantly, you have to listen to what she says. If she doesnt want a boyfriend, then don't keep talking to her in hopes that she'll change her mind. If you enjoy talking to her you want to continue talking to her and you feel that you can deal with not being her bf, then of course do it. But if you are expecting more and she's not prepared to give that, then just be careful not to get your hopes up because it will cause lots of stress and lots of arguments. Best of luck : )
2007-04-19 07:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by irishblue127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. i can help you with this because I'm in the same situation as that girl....if u really like her like u say you do .then u should wait for her if u think shes worth it...their will be a time when she is allowed to have boyfriends and have less on her plate (situation)... you guys could be really good friends for now and try to work things out because if it was meant to be later on .. you both will have the chance to be together ....
hope this helps........... 8 ) .... good luck
2007-04-19 07:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really like her wait for her and don't let her go, but if tou don't like her that much forget about her maybe you deserve something better someone who would love you as much as you love her ok.
2007-04-19 07:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mayra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is all she needs....she's a busy girl....
just leave her alone for now.....and maybe when she's better she'll come looking for you...
there's some other girl out there that you can date...so don't stress on her.
2007-04-19 07:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jocelyn's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to u. if u chose to wait for her, u have to ask yourself how long will u have to wait. i think a big forget it would be best.
2007-04-19 07:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude that stinks sorry but I would try to move on and find someone who wants to be with you. Her loss...
2007-04-19 07:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by BarbieD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
caring for her means that you accept her terms --- you dont know what the future may bring so be her friend -- it may turn out that while she will never be your "girlfriend" she will be a good friend
2007-04-19 07:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋