over a break-up. just sick to my stomach.cant really eat. how do I pick myself up from this mess? He tried to do good things for me, I feel bad about that. but he was never around, always at work. work obsessed. I could barely even talk to him because he was always either at work, getting ready for work, or just got home from work & didnt want to be bothered.he always fell asleep on the couch and I felt alone a lot. and he never really connected w/ my daughter after 2 1/2 yrs. he went to amsterdam for a week to visit his buddy from high school, and my daughter didnt even notice he was gone.still I feel bad because I know he tried to do good things for me. am I doing the right thing?
2007-04-19 07:22:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TRY TO REMEMBER THAT EVERYONE IS BROUGHT INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON. AS MUCH AS WE MIGHT HURT, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING TO BRING OUT OF THE SITUATION. IT IS A GOOD THING THAT YOU REALIZE THAT WHAT YOU NEED AND LACKED IN THIS RELATIONSHIP IS A PARTNER.TO SHARE TIME WITH IT IS IMPORTANT TO BE ABLE TO BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER AND NOT BE ONE SIDED. BEING A MOTHER TO A YOUNG DAUGHTER IT IS AS IMPORTANT TO HER AS TO YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE A CONNECTION WITH A MAN WHO WANTS AND MAKES THE TIME FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER, FOR YOU BOTH WILL BE A PART OF HIS LIFE WHEN TRUE LOVE COMES ALONG. IN THE MEANTIME TAKE TIME TO DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR DAUGHTER TO FILL THE VOID YOU ARE FEELING RIGHT NOW. AND TAKE RELIEF IN KNOWING THAT THIS IS BETTER TO HAPPEN NOW THEN AFTER YOU WERE MARRIED. GOD HAS A PLAN FOR ALL OF US. BE THANKFUL THAT YOU HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO LOVES AND DEPENDS ON YOU AND THE DAY WILL COME WHEN A MAN WILL MAKE THE BOTH OF YOU FEEL THE SAME. DON'T SETTLE FOR ANY MAN WHO DOESN'T MAKE YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER A PRIORITY. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING...
2007-04-19 08:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by cgluster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and we have broken up a couple of times, 1 time recently, and i was just sick, we ended up getting back together but I honestly know the feeling. You are most likely feeling this way because you had a long relationship and I'm sure you loved him. However, I really think that if he wasn't making an effort then maybe he isn't worth it. Maybe though he just needed this as a wake up call, you know, kinda like a you need to straighten up...have you all talked since you broke up? Maybe if you are this sick over it, you should call him and see how he is doing. Honestly though I think you might be better off, but I know what its like to hear that when you don't want to. : ( Give him a call
Good Luck!!
2007-04-19 14:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are doing the wrong thing.
Don't pine for him and make yourself ill over it. Pick yourself up and get dressed pretty and go out with friends or just go walk in the park with your daughter. Stop for a snack. Get out on web site and keep looking. your soul mate is there it just takes time to heal. If it is meant to be, he will come back to you. Don't let him see you down an out about him. Let him see that you have moved on with your life. May make him jealous, but he may realized that you were meant for each other after all and ask to come back into your life. If he calls, you can ignore his request to see you the first call that will make him stop and re-evaluate the situation he put himself in with you. Good Luck in winning your guy back into your and your daughter's life.
2007-04-19 14:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by I suggest you go see Ghost Rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors to consider here. Could you support your self and your daughter well. Don't make any hasty decisions you may regret later. Many women would love to have a husband who worked.
At least he is responsible and does not sit watching television all day and expects you to support the family. I am lucky, but I know women who have supported their lazy husbands for many years. Maybe you could find some classes you like to take and get your own interests.
Just don't rush into anything, that could turn out to be much worse.
2007-04-19 14:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by flieder77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't beat yourself up for a deadbeat man. He could have took you and your daughter on a weeks vacation or at least relaxed and spent it with the two of you instead of him going to Amsterdam. I think that he's a sorry excuse for a man if he can't put his family first. Good job! Don't feel bad.
2007-04-19 14:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably for the best. If you are not happy, neither will your child. Do what you feel is the right thing to do. Why be with a man who ignores you? There are so many out there that spend their lives going over the top for a good woman.
2007-04-19 14:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by sarah n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is always hard. It sounds like you did the best thing for yourself, and your daughter.
It will be tough for a while, but as you know it will get better, and you'll be stronger for it.
2007-04-19 14:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Indignant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you two did not have a strong connection anyway. Chalk it up to cutting your losses and then move on.
2007-04-19 14:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the bull does not come home the cows go out to pastures.
2007-04-19 14:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing I'm going to say is that you need to drop him because he is not paying attention to you or your baby I'm sorry this is happening to you all I can say is think positive and dont let it get to you. THINK OF YOUR BABY.
2007-04-19 14:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Asha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋