So my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months (always together) and everything was going great. He told me he fell hard for me and that I was the sweetest person he has ever met. He always wanted to be around me. We would spend the weekend together and he would go home and text me how much he was missing me and would come back that night lol. He was very sweet, affectionate and the sex was amazing. He just turned 21 and I am 26. We were so wrapped up with eachother that we haven't seen our friends since we met. So, he finally met with his friends last weekend and since then has been acting strange. I finally called him and asked him if he was unhappy or wanted to break up and see other people and he told me he wasn't saying that. I even told him I would be upset if he did but not angy at him. He said he just needed some "me" time. I told him I would give him that. How long should I give him to call me? Is it over?
2007-04-19 07:16:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's had 3 days so far with no contact with me. I did call him last night while he was at work just to say hey. He did call right back and we talked for a minute or so. He told me he would talk to me later though...
2007-04-19 07:17:23 · update #1
Don't worry too much about it. Guys are fiercely independent. When they forget it, they have their macho friends to remind them. Give him his space so he doesn't feel suffocated. Respect that, and chances are he'll respect you.
I must say, a 26 yr old lady with a 21 yr old male is difficult to believe. Ladies are normally more mature at 15 than males are at 21. Good luck, my hat is off to you.
2007-04-19 07:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Indignant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you to were spending ALL of your time together then I can definitely understand him needing 'me' time. I would hope that if it was over that he would tell you, but I've had a guy try to break up with me by not calling me. It's been 3 days, that should be time enough. You two need to have a real conversation now. If it turns out that you still have a relationship, I would suggest you make sure that you aren't monopolizing each other's time. You, too, need time alone or with your girls. Don't forget about your friends because ideally they'll be there in the aftermath should you ever break up. If you alienate them by spending all of your time with him they may not be so sympathetic and you'll be all alone dealing with a break up. BUT, we aren't going to think that way. Let's just assume everything is fine. If so, again, make sure you have a good talk about the course of the relationship and set some boundaries to keep the both of you happy. Good luck ;)
2007-04-19 07:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Rojas♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this, on both ends, actually.
Sometimes when someone is wrapped up in a new relationship, they will lose touch with their friends, and when they get together their friends will be all like "hey what happened to you? are you being controlled by this person?" then they will start to wonder if they are doing the wrong thing by spending 100% of their time with their new relationship. They will start to question if you ARE actually trying to control him into never seeing his friends, etc.
The way to solve this is let go of him and let him know that you will be here for him but you do expect him to have a social life without you, and that is ok. Once he knows you are definnately not trying to control him, then he might be a little more comfortable in knowing that his friends are just talking smack because they are either jealous of your relationship or basically just miss having you around.
His friends might try to tear you 2 apart, but ultimately, it is his choice what he wants to do, and you should let him make that choice on his own. :)
Good luck! And it also doesn't hurt to hang out with friends of your own so that you don't feel left out :))
2007-04-19 07:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you never hung out with your friends since you met him. So when he met his friends after a long time, there is a great possibility that they ridiculed him or teased him for having spent alot of time with you.
3 days is a long time... Just call him up and tell him that you talk to him right now and don't take no for an answer. None of us will be able to tell you whats really going on in his mind, at this point it is something only he will know.
2007-04-19 07:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably wondering if you're the one he wants to remain with life-long. So he's testing the waters.
Give him a few days.. week or so.. and then just make your presents known. Don't try to push your way back in because he'll push back to the point where you'll never get back. If/when he feels he has made a mistake by 'testing the water' he'll come back.
That.. or he's homosexual, serious.. I've seen that happen a few times.
2007-04-19 07:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him have his time with his friends. You should be spending time with you friends too. It is normal for a lady to worry about their man. You two aren't married so dont worry yourself to death. He is just in need of time away from you for a while. It isnt a bad thing at all, it is normal for a guy to do this type of thing. Dont worry he will come back to you soon enough. In the mean time you can still contact him and let him know that you are waiting on him, and you can go out with your friends too.
2007-04-19 07:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Scottie_E. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been together for 2 months...maybe things moved a bit fast for him. Just try to relax. Even if it is over, you had a good time during the 2 months, right?
2007-04-19 07:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys tend to tease their friends when the spend a lot of time with a new girlfriend. He may just be trying to prove them wrong & maintian his current friendships. I wouldn't worry too much, if it does become a real problem however I would confront him about it, & if his friends are decent people they shouldn't mind you hangin' out with them as well.
2007-04-19 07:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, his friends are probably making fun of him or getting mad at him because since you came into his life, he has shut out what was in his life first, which is his friends. Give him some time. It's ok....
Eventually, try and see if you can meet his friends.
2007-04-19 07:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tulip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by carnegia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋