She says she hopes that when we go on a break she'll see how much I mean to her and she'll come back. But i'm scared because she is my life, I love her with everything. What should I do? Should I let her run free or let her know that shes means to much to me to let her go and that I can't handle a break?
2007-04-19 07:00:52 · 29 answers · asked by Chris C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
once u let her go shes gone and not looking back. its an excuse for her to test out other men without feeling guilty. i say if u have a break set her free and don tlook back bc u will resent her after you find out what shes been up to. breaks dont work either your together or your not, that simple.
2007-04-19 07:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little Dude, It sounds like you're not the priority anymore. Her school work is. Its extremely important to her and if you get in the way she will resent you. The best thing you can do is encourage her to do her homework. Make it easier for her. Get her to the library and pick her up afterwards. Get her coffee when she studies, then leave. You'll get a few mins of time with her. If she doesnt want you around at all then do that but ask about her later on if she needs anything. IF shes ok. Be a concerned BF. You will not see her much unless you study together. Even then, you'll have to shutup and let her study. If she's not doing good in school, shes not going to be happy. IF she's not happy, she's not going to be happy with you. If you can't do this, then just break it off and move on. You'll find someone who gives you all the attention you need. She'll find someone who is considerate towards her. Give her what she needs. Study time! Another thing, be positive and happy. Dont be a downer. Keep it fresh and happy.
2016-05-18 23:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by marget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a point and time in your life when you didn't know her so I don't understand what you mean when you say you can't handle not being with her. You cannot force someone to love you and I suggest that you get help because this is not a healthy relationship for you. This is probably why she wants a break because you are smothering her. Let her go and have her break and while she is on break work on you and get yourself together and when she tries to come back you may find that you are better off without her. I'm afraid for you because you sound a little desperate and that's not healthy-you've heard of stalking right? I don't want that for you and I don't want you to hurt yourself or her that's why I say get into some counseling and/or therapy and work on you because there is a special lady out there for you that will love you for who you are. It may not seem like it right now but trust me because I have been in your shoes and had crazy thoughts come across my mind but I stuck it out and got with positive people who helped me see that I was worthy of someone that really loved me for me and they didn't steer me wrong. good luck
2007-04-19 07:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but a break is bad basically there trying to end it easily first slow down seeing each other then the phone calls so its easier for them to say goodbye i know this from experience beware no matter what u may think and how much you think you know her she maybe talkn to someone on the side she doesnt love you all that much to want a break it is possible after getting a taste of the other side she may come back just beware and dont have your hopes up
2007-04-19 07:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by dpljr133 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, an "I need a break" does not necessarily mean "I don't love you any more" or "it's over" I asked my bf for a break and I still love him very much, I was just having some issues and instead of asking for support i pushed him away. This only lasted a couple of days because I felt awful that I had even done this...and just the fact that I wasn't with him made it even worse sometimes a break makes someone realize just how much you love your partner at least in mycase it did.
--GoodLuck!
2007-04-19 07:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by sola07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure that she knows how much you care about her. She could just be testing you to see how much you exactly care about her. But on the same note you do not want to sufficate her either. If she is looking to find herself and give herself some time to breath that might be exactly what she needs and if you sufficate her with every thing she might not have the time that she needs to figure stuff out. I know it is not a fun thing to go through but sometimes you just need to let fate take it and see how it turns out. But before you just let her go make sure you have a serious talk on how much you love her and you respect her and if a break is what she needs than you are there to support her. Good luck!!
2007-04-19 07:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly_2blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't stop her...a 'break' is quite often the prelude to a break-up. Sorry...healthy relationships don't need "breaks".
You may dig her, but she's not diggin' you in the same way...MAYBE she'll find that she does want to stay with you, but this is a definite sign she's considering ending it.
Don't allow ANYONE to be your life, but you. That's just unhealthy and puts an enormous burden on the other person. A good, healthy relationship is when the parties involved want and desire each other...not "need" each other.
2007-04-19 07:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im about to give u the best advice of ur life.... a"a break" is an excuse to go do whatever u want.. she may still lyk u but she wants to see what else is out there and she wants u to be her back up plan... its hurtful i know but true... she said she want to see how much u mean to her?? ok why wud u wanna be with someone who doesnt even know if u mean anything to them i know this is a stressful and hurtful time for u.. but do not let her come and go in ur life as she pleases if shes not sure she wants to be with u then why wud u just sit and wait.. tell her that is childish and u really love and care for her and ur not guna sit around and wait for her to decide what she wants... its guna be hard but this whole break thing is guna hurt u even more i promise..
2007-04-19 07:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give her what she wants - BUT - let her know how this makes you feel.
It's really important to hear what she is saying and understand her feelings.
You may love her allot, she is your love, your heart, your life... But maybe she doesn't feel the same for you.... As sad as that may sound, you HAVE TO accept it.
Who knows, maybe later on in life YOU will be faced in a similar situation and YOU will be the one asking for the break with a new love.
Things will be tough to get used to during your break up... But you will be ok.
I wish you all the best !
2007-04-19 07:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by brendita7277 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I need a break" is actually code word for "I don't love you anymore and I want to sleep with other people". She shouldn't need a break to see how much you mean to her. That should be obvious to her NOW.
I have dated persons like her and believe me she does it once she will get wanting a "break" from your relationship. I understand it will hurt if you break up but you really don't need this nonsense in your life do you?
2007-04-19 07:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋