I have had a huge arguement with my shagging buddy, as has found someone else. I have basically called it off, i don't want anything to do with him, as its not fair on his new girl. I don't think he liked what he heard.
He has since called and said that he still wants to see me and doesn't want to make an enemy of me.
Is he like i think, setting me as a shag on the side? (want 2 be prepared with a knockback if he is!!)
2007-04-19 06:41:37 · 29 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If all you have been doing is having sex toghether why in the hell would you think that he isn't wanting to keep you as a
shagging buddy as you put it. use your brain.
2007-04-19 06:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
When he says he wants to see you, it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with you. Maybe he wants to be friends, however you've got an upper hand in this too. Even if he does make a move on you, think about what you're doing and remind yourself you're in a relationship. Don't let him use you to start with. That way you won't have to have a knockback and then risk the chance of losing the dude you're seeing now.
2007-04-19 06:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Puddles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what it is, you know what it was when you got into it, at least i hope you did. Did you all establish a monogamous relationship? Or anything besides shagging? I dont think your being used, it's really abt. how you feel. Do you have feelings for him that go deeper than, you just wanting to shag up with him? If you do give him an clear choice to make.
2007-04-19 06:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by MS. CRANKY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being shagging buddies is one thing, and perfectly healthy if both people are happy with the limited nature of the relationship... but being a cheater, or being the one he cheats with, is another. Good for you for setting your foot down, and insisting he be honest with his new girl.
Tell him you can go back to being friends, but on no condition will you help him cheat on his new girl, and he needs to respect both his new relationship, and show respect for your integrity. If and when he is officially and finally broken up with her, then you can re-consider being shagging buddies again (if mutually convenient and desirable).
2007-04-19 06:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is pretty obvious.The important thing is that women have very good instincts.It's the twisting feeling in the gut,the hairs going up ont he back of the neck and that nagging on your mind that won't go away.Besides that you don't want to be a Jane Grind.The guys we call Joe Grind and the girl's Jane.If he is with someone be the better person and say it was good while it lasted(sort of)now have a good one,i'm out.Plenty of shaggin'buddies in the world.Don't let him have his cake and eat it too whatever you do...
2007-04-19 06:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is and don't stand for it! Your right for not sleeping with him when he has a girlfriend. Girls should stick together. This man is being selfish cuz he wants you both and will probably brag to his mates that hes shagging two girls so be the bigger person and ditch him. Your worth more than that.
2007-04-19 06:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL!! Don't let yourself be used!
The reason he wants to continue to see you is this, ONE, he's accoustomed to your presence. Two, he's probably thinking, "if it fails with my new girl, I'll still have her to bang the booty.
I was in the same position you were about a year ago. If you don't have any "feelings" for this guy drop him! What's the point of gettin involved in a love trianlge? If you care about him, DROP HIM!! Either way, he's with someone else. You're gunna end up getting hurt and you know you don't want that. He's with her for a reason you never became his GF for another reason!
Good luck!
2007-04-19 06:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Beans15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you can find a new shag buddy. If not, then don't stop getting yours from him, no matter what or who he is seeing.
2007-04-19 06:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he wants you too. What the hell are you having a shagging buddy for? That never works out. I had one when I was 16 and she was 15. She is now a mother (not my kid, dodged that bullet) that's what came of her.
2007-04-19 06:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by my_hamstring 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Probably.
Find yourself a relationship so that you don't have to worry about these things and you can know that the guy wants to be with you for YOU. Bottom line, you're feeling insecure right now.. so it's not worth it, even if the sex was good.
2007-04-19 06:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to use you on the side until he gets up to speed with the new girl. However he might keep you on the side as a side dish too. Either way you have been used and probably will continue to be since you seem to like it.
2007-04-19 06:47:05 · answer #11 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋