I have been with my boyfriend for the past 5 years. of those 5 years, there was a period that we were separated. In that period of time, we seen other people. We decided to get back together and try to make things work. Now he wants me to tell him everything I did, detail by detail what I did. I dont have a problem being honest with him, but if I leave out one minor detail, he flys off the deep end. He has been telling me that he is going to leave me, and today he told me that he no longer wants me. I told him that I will always be here. I love him so much, and I dont want to lose him, but some how he is unable to forgive me, as I have forgiven him. Help me! what should I do?
Thank you....
2007-04-19 06:19:04 · 13 answers · asked by Miss. American Nightmare 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, let step back for a moment. he's threaten to leave for this? this will sound harsh, but let that in secured boy go. do you need all this drama? both of you guys are on shaky ground. there are lots of trust missing from this relationship. besides love, think about how do see yourself and him in the future. can you see it? there is no trust then there is no bright future for it to go on. i know this sounds harsh but you need to sit down and think about it.
2007-04-19 06:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think you need to figure out what you "love" about him. Is it phyisical? Is it just a weak feeling you get being around him? All these things will fade away and after 5 years, you better know what makes him so hot. It obvsiouly isn't a healthy relationship and that tells me that after 5 years, you have work real hard and getting along. And now he wants to tear you down each and everytime you talk? He doesn't want to forgive but to remind you of your past transgressions? Move on. This doesn't sound like a person that you would want to spend the next 50 years with. And that should be your goal. All relationships are hard, don't try to find the hardest one out there.
2007-04-19 06:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by estimator01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That can be a problem, my bf hates to hear stuff that I did before him, it gets him very mad to the point that sometimes he wants to leave. If your bf can't forgive what was done when you two were broken up than he is maybe looking for a reason to leave the relationship. just go on about your life if he really love you and the relationship meant something he will come back.
2007-04-19 06:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by kirbyluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, they don't change, as much as you want them to. I dated a guy off and on for 6 years and kept waiting for him to come around. He always told me he wanted to be with me, but was always working and never spent time with me. Guess what, here we are 4 years later and guess what his wife is going through? If he is heartless enough to say he doesn't want to be with you, why would you want to stay with someone like that? I know what we say won't matter much in the end, you'll do what you want, and chances are you'll stay with him until you decide for yourself that you are worth more, and that he's not it.
2007-04-19 06:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by felixandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight to grow up or...actually no...
Move on, this guy is a control freak psycho who is getting off on your distress.
Can you imagine how miserable he'll be happy to make you and then tell you it's your fault he hates you?
Take a deep breath hon, pull your shoulders back, give him the look of contempt he deserves for abusing your honesty and walk away.
2007-04-19 06:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Years! I got marry after 6 month. I think you know the answer girl.
2007-04-19 06:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i seperated for a little while, but he never wanted to know about what went on with the other man that i dated, all i can tell you is to be as honest with him as you can, and if its not good enough for him then there isnt anything more you can say to him, it kinda sounds like he is looking for a fight and if you give in to him then your giving him the fight that he is looking for. just be as honest as u can without telling him all of what went on, some things are private.
2007-04-19 06:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ashley♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a dick.
Was his acting this way the reason you two were separated in the first place?
Find a new boyfriend.
2007-04-19 06:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by fl_omicron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wait for him dear.. look.. you have wasted 5 years for this guy.. do you want to waste another or several years for him? and in the end he will say nasty stuffs again.. i think he just picked fight with you so he got reasons to string you along again!
don't let him do this to you..
best is you should move on.. it's hard but it's not impossible so good luck :-)
2007-04-19 06:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. He is controlling and you need to re-separate, and MOVE ON.
there are other opportunities out there. The pain of separation will end eventually and you will be glad that yuo are your own woman again. trust me on this.
2007-04-19 06:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋