My boyfriend is the epitome of wat my parents would hav imagined as my ideal guy, I met him 2.5 ago and we've had an idyllic relationship. Now I am 20 yrs old. I've been to his house a multitude of times and he has never been to mine, although I have sneaked him in a couple of times. My parents don't approve of him coming home, and although they meet him very often and get along very well, they just don't want him setting foot in our home. We are not such a homey family and don't always have people at home, but we've never left anyone on the doorstep and it pains me whenever he comes to see me, and even if it's raining, we have to converse on the doorstep or the drive. It's shameful and I'm just sorry for him. He has sort of accepted the fact and doesn't question it. How do you think I should convince my parents? I've tried real hard and had no positive answer till now. Is anyone passing thru the same ting and do you have any tips? Anything is appreciated!!
2007-04-19 06:18:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I can't move out, I'm still a student and I do work, but with THEM so they control all of what I earn!
2007-04-19 06:43:35 · update #1
Well, you are 20 years old and you say you are working with them...I'm assuming you're helping out around the house with chores and probably paying for some of your own things...I think this gives you some say so in being allowed to have guests at your house. Just sit them down and tell them that you'd like to invite him over for dinner with the family....since you've been dating so long and they like him (outside of the home) that there's a possibility of the relationship growing into something more down the road and you feel it's past time for him to be invited into the house! This seems really very controlling and not at all healthy! You have a great boyfriend if he's stuck around and put up with this for as long as he has! You sound very mature and are working and have earned your right to confront them about this! I wish you all the luck in the world!!
2007-04-19 06:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that they love to control your life, your money , and if your not careful your future. You maybe a student, but its time you get a new job that they can't control you and get out on your own. Maybe sit down and tell them, "Mom, dad I have decided since you feel that this isn't really my home too and I can't have _______over after knowing him this long its time I find another job and get ready to move into my own place. I am doing this not out of spite but out of respect for your wishes of not having him in this house." Maybe then they will change their minds, if not have a back up plan ready to move to somefriends for a short time.
good luck
2007-04-19 13:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own place. Move out. Then you can live like the adult you are. Your parents are just plain weird.
2007-04-19 13:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how important the person is to you . Maybe they will except that the friendship is a positive thing for you... Relationships can change if they have to ;the depth is already there.
2007-04-19 13:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job and move out!
2007-04-19 14:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out
you're an adult
2007-04-19 13:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, their home, their rules.
2007-04-19 13:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anah B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋