why do i hate my sister??

Question

all my life i have not got on with my sister, but i wouldnt have called it hate. but recently everything she does makes me want to hit her! even the sight of her! she is v annoying at times but even when she isnt being a pain i still get annoyed! eg if im watching tv and she comes i nand watches it 2! or even breathes/eats 2 loud! i just cant figure out why ive started to hate her so much??!!!!!!!! why??!? anyone else in the same boat?

i am 17 and she is 15. im not jealous of her or anything. my mum and dad r split up.

she was also recently caught shoplifting! this had just made me hate her more as she has ahsamed the family!

Answer 1

Do you remember a time when you did get on with her? If not, do you believe your parents treat you differently or does she have opportunities that you don't? Have you evenr felt like this about anyone else?

Answer 2

Had the same problem when I was a kid, I was the eldest & my sister was 4 years younger. All we did was spend our time seeing who could drop who in it, total open war & i'm ashamed to say that I really hated her. It's only in the past few years that i've gotten to know my sister, we get on great, especially as I have 2 nieces now. Most of the problem caused was because my Mum treated my sister like the sun shone out of her bum & I could do nothing right. So hang in there, it can take a few years, but it's worth it. Also try not to be so hard on her for shoplifting, she's probably more ashamed of it than anyone, I speak from experience as I got caught when I was 14. I was very lucky they only called my parents but I would have faced a firing squad rather than seen the look on my Dads face, I would have done anything to undo it. Never did it again & I was forgiven several years later, lol

Answer 3

woah i get that feeling sometimes....but not as bad, it cools down, but maybe u just need ur space away from her. and i know u sed its not jealousy theres a good chance it might be...so try and think back to ur past, maybe ask ur mum and dad if anything bad happened between u...but her shoplifting obvisously causes stress, but there must have been a reason why..does she hate you too? try to open up to her , have a talk. hope this helps xx

Answer 4

I've found with my family, that I tend to have higher expectations for them, then I do for my friends. It's just natural to expect more of family, and then get more frustrated when those expectations aren't lived up to.

You ask why you hate her so much. I assume this means you want to change? There's a story of a wife who got soooo angry at her husband when he came home late from work. He said he'd be home at five, so she timed dinner for that hour, had everything ready, and he'd be an hour or two late. She'd blow up at him. One day, she sought the help of a friend, who told her she needed to stop expecting so much of her husband. The next day, he was late, and he crept into the house, feeling bad, and expecting his wife to be angry. Instead, she flew into his arms, showering him with hugs and kisses. "I'm sorry I'm late," he apologized. His wife said "that's okay, I wasn't expecting you home at all!"

Totally different situation/circumstances. But if you really want to improve your relationship with your sister, you need to drop your expectations of her. Completely! Try doing one nice thing for her a day. It might take time, but I think you will see things start to change.

Answer 5

everyone feels the same growing up but you got to remember she is a person too and you probably annoy her as well.try and get out of the house more and if you feel like your getting mad go for a walk to cool down, dont hit her as thats wrong ,why not try and talk to her and try and be nice

Answer 6

I had hateful feelings toward my sister growing up.

Mainly it's about jealousy I think. We are so unforgiving of our family, we expect them to be perfect and to know how to deal with us.

If she hasn't done anything to you, it may just be a resentment thing. Try to find something about her that you like and focus on it. Negative thoughts in the long run just make you miserable, try to turn it around and laugh about it. I mean seriously the way she eats? Just laugh about it.

I know what you mean though about that eating stuff. I hate the way my daughter eats popcorn, I feel like its nails on a chalkboard. lol.

Answer 7

Being together or around one person all the time get's annoying, this is probally the main reason for divorce to! Judt try to go out to friend's house's more to get away from her, or make a deal, you will do something for her for your alone time.

Answer 8

I don't have a sister myself, so I'm not speaking from experience but I do find that with my friends, they never get on with thier siblings,always wanting to hit them and stuff, maybe it's just something that every one and their siblings go through, you never know, maybe you'll be best mates later on in life, so just try and live with it. It might be hard, but very few things in life are easy!

Answer 9

hi........ i have the same kind of problem.....i have never got on with my sister particulaly well........and just lately everything has gone rapidly down hill....i am 14 and she is 15.... and i dont think it is an 'age thing'. i have a close friend who was in the same situation as me.......she is now nearlly 50 and still doesn't speak to her sister!.......some family members just dont get on with each other........you dont get on with your sister.....neither do i......some people dont get on with there parents.......try to get rid of the hatred between the two of you.....but if that doesn't work then my suggestion is to just leave it as it is........... otherwise you may end up making things worse....i know from experience....
gl xx

Answer 10

You love to hate her.You'll get over it I'm sure she might feel the same about you.If she wasn't around I'm sure you'd miss her like crazy and her funny ways.Enjoy being a teenager it doesn't last forever.