From what I have been reading courting is the way to go for christians. Many seen courting as an aranged marriage. from what I have read that is not the case at all... (prefer christian perspectives)
2007-04-19 05:46:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Although some people use the terms "dating" and "courting" synonymously, they are actually two very different concepts. When two people begin to date, it is usually considered to be a casual relationship, even if neither person is dating anyone else. Dating is about having fun and becoming intimate without any real commitment. Kissing, holding hands, and even sexual acts are almost always included in the act of dating. Satisfying these kinds of physical desires usually takes precedence over truly getting to know a person. A couple who is only dating is usually not marriage-minded, although they are intimacy-minded.
Courting, on the other hand, is about getting to know someone enough to discover whether or not the two people would be compatible for marriage. It begins as a friendship and opens the door for discussions on important issues such as individual goals, morals, values, religious beliefs, children, family, etc. For a Christian, this is the time where he or she would find out if their potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ. The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not team up, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). During this time there is no physical intimacy, as this is something to wait for until marriage (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
Although neither dating nor courting are found anywhere in Scripture, courting more closely resembles the biblical method for finding a mate. It allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. Dating just for the "fun" of it, without any commitment attached, puts each person in tempting situations which could alter their judgment and cause them to fall into sin which will affect not only their relationship with God, but also their future spouse. "Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31, NKJV).
Recommended Resources: I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris and I Gave Dating A Chance by Jeramy Clark.
2007-04-19 08:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Freedom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Courting is just one more way to make Christians feel guilty about very natural things, one more obstacle to put in their way. It really tore my younger cousins up, and they've all given up on the idea. They were told by their pastor that they couldn't even kiss until their wedding day--and guess what? Their parents had casual movie dates and kissed long before the wedding! AND, their father, who thankfully is NOT my blood relative, cheated on my aunt while he was trying to make his own kids feel guilty for wanting to see a movie and have ice cream with another kid!
2007-04-19 05:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the whole distinction is just a semantic game. There are healthy ways to have relationships and unhealthy, whether you call it dating or courting it doesn't matter.
2007-04-19 05:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Aspurtaime Dog Sneeze 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courting happen before the dating. The courting may be arranged but not the marriage.
2007-04-19 05:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Grant d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Courting pretty much means going to 1st base. Isn't it inevitable that from there you will eventually move on to 2nd, 3rd and 4th?
Try it if you like, but chances are that there will eventually come a time when you just don't want to resist the temptation.
2007-04-19 05:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
What is the difference, as long as no one's sleeping together?
2007-04-19 05:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Arranged marriage"? Ridiculous.
2007-04-19 05:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋