there is this guy that i met and he seems like a real nice guy. Well just the other day he asked me out, i told him it's really complicating for me because there is this other guy who wants to go out with me. The reason why it is so complicating is because i just met this guy. And the other guy i have known for 3 years. I am just so confused mostly on what i want. I want to date both because they both make me feel like iam a person worth while. It's just hard to tell each that i am not ready for a realtionship until i know for sure. How can i tell them both how i feel about them with out each getting mad with me?
2007-04-19 05:45:44 · 21 answers · asked by Kidd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JB is right - you're just dating. There's no reason for you to mention the existence of guy A to guy B at this point (prior to discussing or agreeing to exclusivity with one of them).
If the guy who asked you out already follows up and/or asks you again, then just say yes. If the guy you've known for 3 years is really that interested, he will ask you out, too. Otherwise, you shouldn't wait for him to do so.
P.S. For all you know, these guys are both dating other women, too, and just haven't mentioned it to you. Don't make the mistake of assuming that men think like women do. I promise you they don't!
2007-04-19 05:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say write down what u like most about both guys and then see who has more then sit and talk 2 both guys and tell them how u feel there is alway one guy who dont care about ur feeling some say thing 2 get what they want but if both guys are good go on a date with both but not at the same time and see who gooder 2 u. and if they get mad at the sitution then u have to tell them u want 2 find out who the better men is cause u r lost and dont no waht 2 do but if it was me i go with the other guy cause i would be scared 2 lose own 3 year friendship if things dont go the rigth way
2007-04-19 12:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by meraboo08 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them both that you are currently dating around and not looking for something serious right now. That way you can date both at the same time but not feel like your cheating cause you really aren't. Its best not to get too attached to one or the other till you figure out which one you would rather persue a long term thing with.
2007-04-19 12:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you will go out on a date with them, but that doesn't make you thier girlfriend exclusive. Make sure they can handle that before going out. If not then they aren't very secure to begin with. If so, just don't schedule them both for the same night. And don't start sleeping with either one of them until you are sure you know which one you want to attemp a serious relationship with.
2007-04-19 12:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are a polyamorist. It would start an intersting conversation. Tell them that you like them both, you don't believe in monogomy and and that should buy you some time to get to know them both at the same time. Or behonest and tell them how you feel. Also, a man would never get that mad at a woman who he thought he had a chance to "hook up" with.
2007-04-19 12:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Felipe S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to date more than one guy without telling anything even if they ask. But, if it gets really serious, you have a right and maybe a necessity to do some decision making at that time. Put one down, but don't slam the door!
2007-04-19 12:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you NEED to tell them anyting? There is nothing wrong with dating different people at the same time.....Unless your in an agreement with someone to be exclusive I see no reason why they HAVE to know if you just want to date casually.
If you like them both then date them both....but if you throw sex in then that's a different story
2007-04-19 12:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by cal_gal_81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Niether of them are your boyfriend so you owe them nothing. tell them that you are not ready to be seroius but you like spending time with them and leave it at that. DO NOT explain yourself because if you do, they will always expect an explaination.
2007-04-19 12:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by vandykeprincess06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not asking for a relationship, just a date
2007-04-19 12:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date both. There's no relationship implied if you're dating. It's ok to date.
2007-04-19 12:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋