Imagine that you have been seeing someone for 6months but now you are both in separate countries, but will be together in same country soon. However, while u have been apart, u have met someone and started to see them, but she has now found out about the girl u were seeing before her and technically still are. She confronts u about the other girl, (bearing in mind that in 3 weeks u r leaving ur country for 6 months to where the other girl would be), what would ur reaction be to the confrontation? would u want to be kind to the girl that u have just met to spare her feelings and not hurt her?
2007-04-19 05:42:39 · 27 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth hurts, but told with kindness and tactfulness is always appreciated.
2007-04-19 05:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Indignant 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone is getting hurt - lets just call it what it is - this guy is cheating. Someone was gonna get hurt, probably one of the two girls. If he had been honest at the start, then at least the new girl would have known what she was getting into and if she fell in love, then she did so with open eyes, but this guy hid the truth so he could get the new girl and also keep the old one. He has engineered this whole situation. Maybe he didn't do to cause hurt, but all the choices has made so far, he did so, so he could have everything and to look after himself. If he told the new girl the truth before leaving, my guess is he did so, so that he could get rid of the new girl, so she won't call or follow him, as he doesn't want to risk his old relationship by new old girlfriend finding out what he did.
2007-04-19 05:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is that you're a cheater! Whether its with the girl in the other country or with the so called "found girl". Seeing as how you're leaving anyways, at this point, spare the poor girl the heartache of being used by someone as selfish as yourself, and let her down easy! Then take a moment to re-examine who you are and what you really want out of "Any" relationship. If you want to play the field then play the field...just have the decency to share your feelings with your would be future partners. It will save you and your parterns a lot of heartache in the future.
Sorry but the truth hurts sometimes!
2007-04-19 06:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by flsuave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the girl that you met & the country that you are visiting should be ok together & in 7 months time you will find out but before you go make sure that he knows what she is thinking so that when you are back in the 7th month everyone will be much wiser.
Will you let us know how you get on.
Have a great time & just Text me if you want to meet up.
I will make your life much more complicated & you would not want to go for 6 months.
In fact we may have a newborn in about 9 months
2007-04-19 06:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I do believe he should go back with the girl he was with for 6 months and lose the newest chick. Only because the longer a person is in a relationship the closer they grow to you. So it may not feel good to the newest girl but it will hurt the other girl even more.
2007-04-19 05:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case honesty is the best policy. You need to sit down and think about who you would rather be with. Life is very very short when you come to think of it. It's best to make the best of it while we're here and be happy in each day that we wake up.
The yo-yo affect is a very cruel game to play. We end up telling one lie on top of another until it all comes crumbling down and all parties involved despise us. Games can be found in toy and department stores. Find a good one and play your heart out, but never play games with someones feelings. People get hurt 'both physically and mentally.'
Good luck!
2007-04-19 05:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by pj m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a good liar, and to me the best kindness one can offer another is honesty. Don't distort her vision of who you are by adding a lie to what it is that the two of you share. Tell her the truth, but do it as gently as you can. Let her know that you have room in your heart for her as well and tell her it's one of the reasons that you can't lie to her. That's what I would do. You may be surprised at her reaction as she may truly understand, but either way, it's best to keep what the two of you share real.
2007-04-19 05:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young? you only live once so don't get tied down if you want to play the field, life is for living so enjoy, meet new people and you'll know when you meet the one you want to be wiv.. coz you wont cheat on her..
best of luck
don't forget doesn't matter what sexuality you are you can still get diseases ( stay safe)
2007-04-19 05:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You decide what and who you want ? If you are not ready to make a dicision ( good today may look bad tomorrow, that is life) then just tell them the truth, that is you dont want serious relationship for now.
2007-04-19 05:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the girl is the lease of your problems,it's about your man.i would not worry about confronting her,because if yourr man wants her,he will stay with her and it does not matter what you say or do.confront him,see where he at,and go from there.sounds like foul play,move on,and get someone new if he has another girlfriend.gl
2007-04-19 05:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by allforzaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 10:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by barksdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋