It has been over 2 mths since the breakup. I'm really tired of going through mood swings. One moment, I'm feeling better that he's out of my life. The next moment, I miss him so much and I just wish that I could be with him again...
How do I deal with all of these??
2007-04-19 05:36:35 · 27 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not going to like my answer but Its an honest one ..
Quit feeling sorry for yourself ..
you act as if he is the only guy in the world ..
go out and get active , hang out with your friends , you will meet another guy soon enough and then you will wonder why you ever felt the way you do or why you cried over that guy ..if it was meant to be you'd still be together and maybe it wasn't your fault so get mad about it and stop dwelling on it
so hold your head up and stop whining about what you don't have and go and enjoy what you do ..
2007-04-19 05:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by myopinionforwhatitsworth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that I know exactly what you are feeling. It is horrible. One minute your fine, and think that your better off, and then the next, your crying, and going crazy inside because you miss him so bad. I was with my guy for 5 years, and just recently split. Its is something that I have realized that only time can heal. It's the hardest thing I have had to do....I have been writting my feelings down in a journal, and it seems to help a bit. Keep yourself busy with friends and family, but let yourself feel. Talk about it with someone....let your feelings out. Try to stay strong emotionally. Believe me, that is eaiser said than done, but in the end you will look back and see that you are a much stronger person. In time things will change, and your heart will mend. I am a strong believer in the saying "everything happens for a reason" ***Hugs***
2007-04-19 05:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. American Nightmare 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all realize that this is a temporary season in your life and the feelings will pass with time (I promise). Realize also that when those waves of grief come, its okay to cry and express yourself emotionally when they do. Then find other ways to spend your time in constructive ways. I found that going for walks and working out at home with a workout dvd (or if you prefer the gym, I didn't, I didn't really want to be around people) are some good ways to spend your time. Plus the added benefit of the excersize will release endorphins in your brain which help combat depression and negativity. Do something for YOU, live your life well and realize that there are better things (and people) in store for you!
2007-04-19 05:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Christy V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to go through the stages, what you are feeling is grief, grief is not reserved only for when someone dies.
YOur relationship died, so you are grieving the loss, 2 months is a short time, give yourself a year before you even think of making any major decisions. especially relationship wise as you will only be rebounding.
You have to work out what did not work, and give and take some of the blame and grow through your mistakes and then you will be able to move on. Remember love may always come again God bless.
2007-04-19 05:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, I am 16 though and I love someone that I probably will never be able to have. It is hurting me inside and ripping me apart, but I have to accept that this is life. I also have problems with my family. I will tell you this, life is very hard. It hurts but that's the way it is. I found strength through God. Before I was an atheist, but now I have found faith and this is getting me through a lot - one day at a time. Do NOT let those rude and disrespectful people get to you, as they are not worth the time. They are pathetic and you are not. Do not get nervous and shy from others! Be who you are, just be you. I also wish I could have someone to share my life with, I have one person who I know would be perfect for me and I believe I would be perfect for him. But he is unfortunately straight and with a girlfriend - although I will never loose hope. I will come to terms with it and accept it and eventually move on, but I won't give up hope! Email me anytime if you want someone to talk to!
2016-05-18 23:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to indulge in some activity where u have to strive ur best to put in ur effort..this can b a new hobby, ur fitness club or some learning institute..
Try to appreciate urself ..bring in flowers, cards and all tht u luv...hide thm in the room and close the door..afta some tym..get in and feel surprised tht theres sum1 who loves u..thts YOU..wow!
Try to meet new people..
When ur alone..make sumthing u like, watch movies u like and laugh out loud and enjoy each moment..
Tho its tough to mend the heart, still u can try..ur daily lyf shudnt b upset by the mood swings..make sure when u get angry u control urself- stop thinking abt the issue and start to smile back..
2007-04-19 05:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by HereToAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distraction, don't rush yourself, try and get over him slowly and remember whether someone is out there just for you or not, you're better of without the cr*p.
Two months isn't that much time, try to grasp the feeling of getting over him and dismiss any thoughts of regret and self doubt.
In a few months you will be laughing at this and wondering what you ever saw in him...
2007-04-19 05:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by almost_angelic_jane 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a type of mourning...the more you face it, the faster you will get through the mourning. I'm not saying you will come to point where you will not miss them...but, it will be easier to move on. Its a part of life! Start involving yourself in social events and activities, with other people. Sports, hobbies, whatever...church, school, wherever. Good luck! You'll make it.
2007-04-19 05:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a rebound guy... and fast!
Don't get a relationship type guy... find someone fun that can help get your mind off your ex. Don't look for another relationship, just look for a fun night on the town and get back into the dating game.
It is time to move on and shake yo money maker!
Ps. Being single can be a blast if you do it right.
2007-04-19 05:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Riddle me This! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the bad feelings come, and they will for awhile, have a plan to distract yourself. Go for a walk, clean your bathroom, call a friend. Accept that sometimes it takes awhile and don't beat yourself up when you miss him. And if possible, start dating, even if you don't meet someone to replace him, at least you won't be sitting at home missing him.
2007-04-19 05:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋